Everything.
Having lied about it for a number of years, when it came out, I had to get it all out in the open.
Horrible for her to hear. Horrible for me to talk about. But very cathartic once...
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Everything.
Having lied about it for a number of years, when it came out, I had to get it all out in the open.
Horrible for her to hear. Horrible for me to talk about. But very cathartic once...
Some comfort, perhaps, for those thinking about telling their signficant other: as they say, it does get easier over time.
I'm not a regular on this site but found it incredibly useful last year...
Thanks Aunt Kelly. That's what I thought.
Whilst I could try and argue what other people do, my wife won't be interested.
Baby steps I think.
My children are young (<12) and I don't want them to know either now or in the future.
It's something I do for myself but not something that I want to show the world.
Besides, growing up is...
TLDR: How often is it reasonable for me to underdress when I've just come out to my wife who disapproves?
Once a week?
Twice a week?
Should there be no restrictions?
Should I ask for...
Chloe
I agree with the below and think I'm in the same position.
When I came out, I had counselling but this was for my wife's sake more than me.
I'm comfortable in what I do and see them as...
Hi all
Hopefully a simple question. For those like me who underdress at work, have you been caught out? How did it happen?
Do you think that it is a case of "when" or "if"?
Having come out...
Ha ha.
I think she would prefer that I was naked in public than being caught CDing.
Weather in the UK is normally temperate so I can under dress most of the time at work except the few days it's hot. Panties and hosiery.
But things are different now. I can work from home so...
Buying my own tights as an adult after repressing my thoughts of crossdressing for the best part of 25 years.
First pair kind of sucked as I was so nervous but I got hooked and own more than my...
Absolutely and Covid lockdown (and people being in the house more) is giving less opportunities to de-stress at a time in my life where I need it even more. For another post but everything in my life...
Sexy undergarments for me.
When I fell back into CDing, wearing knickers started only as a practical necessity under hosiery. My boring male boxers just didn't go.
Part of this stems from the...
I came out at the beginning of lockdown and we're still taking time to work out what my wife is happy with (not much) and what she won't tolerate.
After the lies I've promised not to do anything...
It depends.
I'm low on the scale so see myself not part of LGBT as I'm a heteroosexual male who just happens to have a particular sartorial affection.
But I can also see that those who take...
Time and counselling.
I needed time to get to grips with the sudden urge to crossdress which had been dormant since childhood and teens. This took a number of months.
Counselling with a...
There is nothing like wearing pantyhose.
Doing so over freshly shaved legs was something I only discovered recently (other than when young and hairless). Extremely tactile and seems unfair that...
Good question and wasn't sure myself.
All I can equate it to for myself is the urge to CD (for me, only nylons) but it isn't at the expense of taking greater risks, but maybe that's just me.
In...
Interesting.
Funny how no one would bat an eyelid if it was boys dressed up as a superhero or any other "normal" costume. For me it was cowboys and Indians or a knight.
Would the same standard...
Thanks Di.
Yes, the timing was dicey but when asked outright ? I couldn't lie as it would make things even worse. I had decided I was going to tell her previously but I knew that this was going...
Don't start with trickery. She will either see through it or she will link it back to when you do tell her. This happened to me and I've spent a number of hours trying to persuade my wife that what...
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Lots of good advice here.
My thoughts: if you are not sure where this will end up, you have two choices. Either come clean and have "the talk" again but tell her that you are not sure...
No cheerleaders in the UK, so no.
I'm confused.
You are doing lots of things at home that are feminine yet she has no issue with that? Is it just the crossdressing in front of her?
Also you say it's a compulsion and there is...
Thanks Sandi. I'm trying to give her space but also am there to talk when she wants to. We've got over the initial shock and are currently much more settled and normal life continues so she can see...
The argument was relevant and my wife outright asked me if there was something else. If I hadn't said yes and then gone on to explain she would never have been able to trust me again. Believe me,...