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This pretty much sums it up for me. I love my husband more than anything. I could survive without him, but I don't want to. But, I do feel forced to try to accept something I don't think I can. ...

Okay, here comes debbie downer. But, what her mom did and said, sounds a little creepy to me. Maybe its just the way you wrote it. But, the way she kept asking if you were alright and if she could...

Really, this statement goes against what most cders seem to say around here. That what their SO does or doesn't do makes them crossdress. It is a thought many women stress over when finding out...

I'm always sorry to hear of a break up b/c of this. Makes me sad and scared. But, I, completely, understand you reasons. That is my biggest worry...that I will end up hating him and, therefore,...

So you are admitting, even though you have a very supportive wife, who loves you unconditionally, accepts and supports you, that you STILL lie to her every day?

Reading your post, Anne, do you really think the responsibilities aren't divided equally, given your circumstances? You said your wife works longer hours. So, do you think she should take on 50% of...

Yes, you are lying. And since you will probably ask, If I don't understand it myself, how can I tell her? You start with, dear, I don't completely understand what is going on inside my...

I think you may be mistaken. It's your male mind telling you not to stop, regardless of others feelings. Your female mind is reminding you that you are hurting people. Just my thought. I, also,...

I agree, Busker has it nailed. BTW, I haven't lied to my husband about what I can and cannot accept. Or that I will always be okay. I, specifically, said I am not sure how I feel about it, but I...

If you only knew. I love the water, I'm not sure about the spring. It's all those darn rocks I tripped over and twigs that slapped me in the face on the way to the spring that keeps me from loving...

OMG! My son had his first birthday party this past weekend, as well. (ours is always very subdued and my kid did not have a meltdown, but, of course, we don't drink at kids' birthday parties)

I...

Maybe, just maybe, they are not checking their email in consideration of their spouse's feelings. Just a thought.

Yes, you need to tell her, but know that her life will NEVER be the same, regardless of how she feels about the cding. And you will be the reason. Give her some leeway.

I do NOT agree with...

Coming from a GG. The black wig is much more passable. I don't know why. It just is.

While I agree, you did the right thing and you were probably feeling a bit defensive. What, exactly, is your reasoning for bad talking his wife? She didn't seem to have anything to do with the...

I will chime in here. This thread is disturbing (among other things) to me. Because of that, I asked my husband what he thought? His response? He said, Are you serious? If I had a vagina, I...

I'm sorry. IMO, you did trick them. You are NOT a girl, whether you identify MORE as a girl, or not. Regardless, talking/flirting online or in person with no intention of going forward is called a...

This is all based on my experiences and my opinions. Balance and compromise is possible.

Your wife needs to believe that you will not hide things from her, do things behind her back or lie to...

Compromise is ONLY a slow death if you think you should get everything YOU want out of the relationship and cding. Marriage is about compromise, always has been, always will be. Nobody gets...

Please remember that those with the 'leave her in the dust attitude' are NO LONGER MARRIED (or never have been). If that is what you want, then by all means, listen to them.

Not to be a buzzkill, but people really aren't as stupid as you would like to think they are. They probably won't guess you're a cder, but they will wonder what the deal is. The makeup is TOO good....

Barbara, first and foremost. Even if you 'can't' think of it as lying. It was. I understand where you're coming from, but in order to help her get over the lying and loss of trust, you need to...

Your wife may be showing interest b/c she feels you are 'having an outside relationship' if you shop with someone else. Idk. Jealousy of the 'other' woman. It might backfire on you. Just sayin'.

I am a parent WHO STAYS HOME WITH HER KIDS. I have never had a really easy time getting pregnant, therefore, each of our 5 pregnancies were planned. I can't speak for my husband, but I KNOW I did...

You may be right, I may have been a little touchy at that moment when I read it. But you also have to agree, that GG's do get a lot of flack for what we do and do not wear on this forum. And it...