I stand by the balance thing IF you desire the partnership of another person in your life. Few people will last long in a relationship where one party is perpetually preoccupied. Doesn't matter what...
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I stand by the balance thing IF you desire the partnership of another person in your life. Few people will last long in a relationship where one party is perpetually preoccupied. Doesn't matter what...
Yep. Replace the word crossdressing with any other all-consuming activity and I'd bet you'd find another group of lonely singles and unhappy spouses. I often think it's not the dressing that puts...
Billie, I understand the urges are strong and it's good that you know yourself well enough that you know suppression will be difficult. You're actually being very realistic by seeing the problems...
Billie Jean, it's really about priorities. If crossdressing is an all consuming, self defining priority in your life, then you'll definitely struggle to find a partner who will put up with that over...
Ava, he sounds a lot like my H in that it's a fun, sexual thing. And yep, I have asked and still ask many of these questions you wrote. Fact is, it's a bit of a mystery why this happens and why it's...
Great post, Lori. As a GG, obviously all this doesn't affect me as an individual but I'd be happy to wave a picket sign in support.
Maybe that's the answer. Maybe crossdressers, be they TG or...
Ashley, if your wife doesn't like crossdressing, it's doubtful she's going to grow to like it any more than you'll grow to not like it. It's possible over time that she'll mellow enough to allow...
Having shared with many, many other girls in my past life, I can say that over familiarity can fast breed fighting and contempt. We girls can be funny when confined together in the same living space....
That's a really good point. While this issue doesn't affect my H personally as he'd be one of the private sexual dressers stepping out and frightening the general public, lol, but if you're goal is...
I agree that change takes change, but I also think the three million other available crossdressing sites and their gazillion members who mostly dress for intimate reasons are not really interested in...
I think all young kids, boys and girls, mimic mom to some extent. I'm in the thick of life with young kids now and mine, my friends, and my acquaintances kids are all little mini mommies. The older...
Mel, Reine is right. Because of the hurt she feels and the trust she's lost, this could take years to settle and even then, you may only ever gain vague disinterest about crossdressing from your...
Not from where this GG is sitting...men are rather lovely to look at, too! :)
Thanks Reine, I'd love to see it. And I'm not surprised there is as much devision in the AB world as this one. You're right that the word 'fetish' is often misheard as 'deviant' or 'unnatural'. But...
Thanks Isha. My H is the sexual/fetish type so it's probably more of a sore spot than need be :) And I agree - it ultimately doesn't matter why or how, but what you do with it when you get there....
Paula, I was talking about FETISH dressers, not transwomen! Not even ordinary MTF crossdressers...just the fetish dressers. Read my post again!
Actually Isha, I'm not lumping. I'm merely sticking up for the fetish dressers who are told time and again that they don't exist! It's like there's a collective mental block here that there are some...
Stevie and Reine, your posts make the most sense.
As for this reluctance here to believe in fetish dressing, I wonder what we are to make of the other fetishes out there, like the Adult Babies and...
Kandi, my H is a cross 'dresser' not a cross 'doer'. It's a sexual thing for him and all about the fantasy outfits. I know he tries on about 20 different looks whenever he occasionally indulges (I...
Good point. But wouldn't someone who was blind from birth have to physically touch someone wearing stockings etc to experience this tactility? Otherwise it would surely never enter their mind to try...
Melissa, I'd bet they're not saying anything as its still very stigma loaded.
But honestly, I don't see how a stock-standard crossdresser could exist if they were blind from birth. The difference between male and female clothing and presentation would be an entirely abstract...
Gosh, Kaisa, I just really feel for your wife. Does she have anyone to talk to? Has she told you her limits with all this, and have you sat down and figured out if you can even live by them? The...
Isha, actually I think I can agree with the predisposition idea. I just don't agree this disposition is necessarily about crossdressing. My H is pretty sure if it hadn't been crossdressing it would...
Thanks for sharing this, Jennifer. I was wondering though if you think it was an escalation in dressing desire that caused you to come out? I've read that escalation can happen from the forties...