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Judy,

The threat made to you for simply defending crossdressing is shocking.

What does being a man mean to me? Not a lot. It was just a random accident of birth. I'm neither happy nor unhappy about it. Neither proud nor ashamed.

Hi Leanne,

I totally agree with you. And in the next 11 or 12 weeks, either side of the winter solstice, it gets dark so early we can go out in the rush hour. My first ever time out in the street...

Hi Laura,

I'm afraid I don't agree with your comment here. It implies that only men derive some kind of sensuous pleasure from female clothing and that women don't. That for women the clothes...

I have been growing my hair out for 15 months now and it's just beyond shoulder length. I work in offices in a pretty traditional and formal setting. As Krisi has said, long hair could be...

Hi Nicole,

You are an inspiration. I've been out to CD events with lots of others, and by myself in the city after dark. Nothing like cover of night to increase passability!

But I need a plan...

Matty,

I'd been out to pubs and restaurants several times with other CDers before I ever went out on my own. Being accompanied gave a sense of safety. My first time out alone in the street - as...

Chelsea, it is very encouraging that your wife is making suggestions and is bringing the subject up. It's often the CDer driving the conversation and pushing too hard. So this, together with the...

Heather, your face looks smooth and genuinely feminine. Small wonder you see this girl looking back at you in the mirror. Take full advantage!!

The first time I wore a wig and full makeup I got...

Hi Wanda,

From your summary it sounds as if your wife is comfortable with and accepting of your femme self, but only to a certain point. With your hair in barrettes, this tips over into an...

Hi Jennifer,

Loving the feeling of being on this road trip with you. I applaud you for being so single minded and not taking any guy things with you. No decisions to make. Girl every time. I think...

Curvious,

Well done. It takes real courage to go out.

I've only gone out once on my own...a few months ago from a hotel. OK once I was out in the streets but butterflies in the elevator on the...

Hi Kimmy,

I went to a big CD event in the UK with my wife last year. Being photographed had been our biggest fear. However, we found that everyone was very respectful of others and tried to ensure...

Hi Carla,

I'm with you on this one, completely. Because I crossdress, I get and I take the chance to explore and experience a good part of the female world that is visible, but seemingly...

Hi Carla,

I most frequently visit late at night, from roughly 11 pm to around 1.00 am. It's a great time of day. Everything is over for the day. All is quiet and I often listen to the radio and...

So many high points in the two years since my wife accepted and saw me fully dressed for the first time. This is overwhelmingly the most important thing as it has given me the chance to speak...

"She" goes nowhere. She is always there. She and he are one and the same and always have been. It's just that she is now given voice and limited freedom of expression through being out to my wife,...

Hi Samantha,

You ask why you go through this thought process then talk yourself out of it. I can only surmise that it is because you have weighed up all the benefits and disadvantages and...

Hi Jenny,

The thought that life would be simpler without all the concealment of my femme side has occurred to me many times. The risks today are still high. Family, job, friends.

But every...

Hi Nicole,

One of the greatest fears I have is of the situation you found yourself in...encountering a drunk whose behaviour is unpredictable but could easily become violent. I try to avoid this...

Stephanie mentioned the "middle ground" above...and this is probably where you'll find me.

For so many years I have dressed in private at home or, more often, in a hotel room. My only venture...

Hi Becky,

You have been hired as the IT Manager and, as with being new to any new company, your primary objective in the early days should be to demonstrate your capacity to fulfil the duties of...

Hi Sweet gal,

I share your frustration but I'm also with Jennifer on this one. The frustration is seeing the wonderful range of garments that women wear in work (and elsewhere), but probably...

Hi Lynne,

Given the efforts and expense you've gone to in order to create a feminine image, I can understand how disappointed you feel.

When I got my first wig, which is a long blonde...

Hi Lucy,

I am with you on this. Perfume is an exquisite addition to whole effect, when dressed. I frequently wear a little perfume when in drab, too. It provides a constant connection to the...