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I agree with Saikotsu that bringing it up when your SO gets home can be not a great idea. I've found that talking CD in general with my SO in the early days could make a good day bad and a bad day...

I felt I had to pick one as a key to community, and it helped me feel more feminine. But as a wise transwoman recently told me, "you see, your name is the very first thing you have absolute control...

Great survey! You asked the right questions :) I can't wait to see the results!

Well, what if I haven't underdressed for the day and I'm still stuck sitting at my desk? :)

What do you do? Sometimes I'm so crippled by the desire to dress that I can't seem to get other stuff done, whether that's at work or home, and it's suffocating. How do you break out of the fog?
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While I think accepting who you are is easiest if you can say screw what everyone else thinks, I am me, I can't do that very well. I still take cues from those around me, which is both good and bad....

Many good suggestions here. Be ready for "SO ups and downs" (and see that thread...people have been helping me with that issue since last week). SOs can easily be excited one day, and cold the next....

Suzie, you hit the nail on the head! I've wondered this same question occasionally, and out of fear of ridicule, I've just not posted because of it, which is sad. We should do what we can to create a...

Thank you all for your continuing support and dialogue. Some answers to your questions: we've been married nearly 6 years, no kids, though we started seriously dealing with CD the past 3, after I had...

St. Eve, that's a powerful story. My wife tells me after her blowups that she loves me too even when she throws tantrums. Sometimes I guess, we all just need to throw a tantrum!

Reine, thanks for your insight. I think you're actually onto something about how my wife feels that my "inner landscape" changes with the "cloud nine" feel. She says it's hard for her because she has...

Hi Suzie,

I really like the idea of a code word. It worked well when chaperoning youth from my church on a trip and we had a code word for when they needed to stop acting a fool. This could work...

Yeah it's this stuff that scares the crap out of me!

Thank you all for the discussion! I figured there would be some other people who also thought about telling a coworker :) Yeah, I really liked the points that I need my job to support my cross...

I'm definitely not out at work (office environment), but sometimes I feel like telling a close female coworker who would probably be supportive and it would be nice to have someone to talk to in...

Hey all! It’s been awhile since I’ve posted here. I’m having one of those weeks where I feel I can’t get much support. I’m sure y’all’ve had those weeks. Now, I do have a CD friend...

Thank you all for your responses...it's great to get a sampling of how different people look at the same elephant!

~Ashley

Hi All,

Right now, I define myself as 80% male/20% female (meaning, I feel 100% female 20% of the time, which isn't exactly true--it's a lot more nuanced than that--but it helps my wife...

Taylor, that was so simple but so encompassing! I second Tina--I feel that way often (though I haven't gone out)! Even from just dressing around the house, I go through those feelings. Also, when...

I knew since 1st grade or so that I had a draw to girls' clothes and being a girl, but didn't get enough courage to sneak into my mom's closet until around middle school. I never got caught, and...

I've never been out, but I don't have a wig, so that's a definite no-go for me. Like a lot of folks on here allude to, I'd say that everyone has her minimum standards, some more so than others!
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To Candice's point, yeah, letting the cat out of the bag definitely has consequences, and choosing how you do it smartly is important. Sometimes you have to balance telling someone with not going...

Hey everyone! I tell you what, I've been on these darn boards for less than 2 weeks, and it's really lit a fire under me. First, trying on clothes in the store, and today, because of this thread, I...

Hey Michelle, I think this is a very interesting point, that we're not fully capable of expressing something ingrained in us.



And I definitely agree with this statement!

~Ashley~

Isha, great story with a great moral and great ending. I, too, was hanging on every word and thinking, dang, she has the WORST luck (based on the restaurant/bar story). I can't wait to read your...