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Wow. It sounds as if you live in paradise! I live in the midwest. The vast majority of women I see when I'm out and about don't wear makeup. Not even my daughters-in-law! (One lives in central...

Not at all. As I said in my post #43, I have felt flattered when a man looked at me appreciatively. Whether or not his mind wanders to sex is not my concern, provided he behaves appropriately (no...

Yes, I agree. I've done it myself, many times. Although I didn't want to send those signals at work or at other times when I wanted the guy to see me as his equal and negotiate with me seriously (as...

Absolutely! All my life, I have worn conservative (see note) clothes if I wanted to be taken seriously by men, meaning if I wanted him to pay attention to what I was saying more that having his mind...

The idea of dresses and skirts signaling accessibility actually came from my SO. A few years ago we went out to dinner. I was wearing a blue-jean skirt just above the knee and a not-tight Tshirt,...

No, but there's a time and place for everything. There's a difference between the clothes I might choose to attract a man vs what I wear on a day-to-day basis.

My comment was based on your...

Diane, don't forget that Flugel wrote his book only about 20 years after Freud came up with "penis-envy". Great strides have been made in psychology since then. :)

As to emasculation, pay...

But why would you want to dress in a way that shows more of your body and makes you look vulnerable as a sexual object. Most women are wanting to move away from that ... unless of course they want to...

Gosh I knew this would devolve into "women can wear pants and so why can't men wear skirts" again.

I agree with the other GGs. CDers wear women's clothes because they want to, not because there...

I had a friend whose husband I knew CDed. So I told her. And eventually my SO wanted a mutual friend of ours to know, so that hopefully she would be willing to have dinner out with us while my SO was...

It's because most people don't have a fixation for clothing like crossdressers do. Not even women! Most of us choose clothes for comfort and convention - for example, I might not wear torn jeans to a...

I’m glad that you are able to indulge freely in what makes you happy. But your comment above about GGs being jealous of all the things you’ve got seems off. I’m a GG and I never, ever am jealous of...

In the early phases of our relationship it was all so new that I accepted all the ways my SO dressed as his best attempt at presenting as a female. Only sometimes, when the dresses were tight and...

My oldest son is in his late 30s, my youngest in his late 20s.

From the very beginning I did my best to raise caring, nurturing boys. I have three sons, no daughters. Their dress-up chest had all...

Bravo Rhonda, well said!!

Precisely! Effective communication is key, and in order to accomplish this we must learn to be assertive, which is hugely difficult when it comes to sensitive topics between spouses - whether the...

You've been consistently and completely honest with your wife from the beginning. I admire this and my heart goes out to you. I understand your frustration and current unhappiness.

I read your...

Before I met my SO I didn’t have opinions about CDers. I had heard of drag shows and like Char I thought they were just entertainment. And I learned from gay pride parades that men who wore women’s...

Just as long as the woman knows that her husband does have better sex with men. I would hate to be in a long-term relationship with a guy who didn't have the best sex ever with me, but who instead...

You mean like a kink? A bit like a guy who has a thing for feet, or for furry things?

Then yes, I suppose anything can evolve to being some sort of fetish.

So maybe I should have expanded ......

Why do you think that your wife seeing you cavort in her underwear won't help her self image' Do you think that she compares her femininity to yours? And why "cavort", as opposed to simply "wear".
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I don't think that non-CDers are the least bit interested in trying on women's clothes. In fact, it has been my observation that picturing himself in a dress is personally repulsive for a non-CDer,...

You’re afraid to lose your wife and that’s understandable. You love her and you don’t want to hurt her. You feel guilty because you know that she will feel betrayed when she finds out you’ve CDed...

I don't pander to posts that fuel fantasies, and so I won't indulge you with an answer. Besides, how should I know or even care what my female acquaintances sleep in.

It is popular here to blame guilt feelings on an overly puritanical or religious society (for those raised in strict religious families) that imposes a false morality on us, such as men who...