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Please keep up the suggestions everyone. I feel this funk I am in is multi-faceted. Emi is hanging around I feel mostly due to the stressors I am experiencing which also include work.

Couple...

Today is a perfect example of what I am struggling with.

My wife got up and went into work, which stinks.

So I drove to our cabin and now instead of mowing the lawn here I sit in thigh highs,...

I know, maybe I am looking at this all wrong. When you live in a small community it is tough to accept who you are when you know most won't.

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I guess that is why I am...

I get it, there are soooooo many factors at play here. My wife has been working overtime a lot and several of the tasks at hand we do together. Mowing the lawn, stacking wood etc. I have always...

Thank you all for the support, I will try and clarify what my thoughts and feelings on this are when I get home. For some reason my phone keeps deleting my text.

Emi

I didn't ask for this. I truly believe that other personality in me is a huge contributor in how I have gotten to this point in life but....
With one child away at college and essentially...

I am conflicted on this. I feel like I want to say no, and I opened up to my wife the other night how much internal conflict this side of me creates. She knows of my other personality but I don't...

I hear ya, thing is she will look for an answer until she knows there isn't one. We talked about research and from mine it's pretty clear that there is no "cure".

We're a small town over the...

Thanks for the well wishes and advice. I certainly plan to take it slow!

I get what you are saying Rhonda, but that wouldn't work, I can't and that was what led to this.

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You are soooooo correct, and I can tell she sees it too!

Jane dear, I'm not sure how old you are but as time went on the weight of this began to become unbearable and my concern for what others think is starting to wane. However, no two situations are the...

Gretchen,

I agree fully, we discussed boundaries and how they would be necessary. I also encouraged her to take time to absorb all of this and be very sure to bring up any concerns that pop up.
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Finally had no choice. The guilt and shame of doing something my wife didn't know about was too much. I couldn't stand the thought of her finding out on her own. Additionally, the fog was...

sometimes_miss,

I totally agree with your assessment. This is part of what frightens me..

When I don't understand something I immediately set out to learn as much as I can about it. This subject is so frustrating for me. As of now (45) I still end up in and out of the fog to varying...

I too envy those who can just let it be. Heck, my wife is that way. She knows I paint my toes because I like to. Often times I go about 3 weeks then have to change colors, she'll leave hers until...

I want to thank all of those who have replied, it is very comforting to know I'm not alone. I know I'm not, but it'snice to hear. I will reflect on more tomorrow as it is late now.

Emi

I took a quick look into the "Ask A GG" sticky. There's currently some responses regarding a question about a wife's struggle with acceptance after 30 years. So as not to violate the rules I...

I have accepted that there is a feminine personality in myself, without a doubt two different beings and not one "confused one". What I struggle with is how to be happy that way.
I'm not sure how...

Thanks everyone, I am still not happy with myself and until I get there it will always be a struggle.

Ironically, out of respect for her and our marriage. At the time, as maybe some are, I was naive to who I am. I thought I could beat it. I can't change that now.

I'm sitting here, trying to be productive. I am currently stuck. For some reason the fog hit me good. I have always wondered the "why" as have so many others so I find myself back here after many...

I have done it plenty of times when that was all I could do. No one noticed!

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Sitting here right now, third day with my toes painted but that's it!

Wow, great post! This one got me thinking..........

Wow! That was awesome!