Yes, and I'd known her since age 5.
She was always feminine, and one day when she came over to my house to play she spent the entire time playing with dolls with my sister (age 6). She never came...
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Yes, and I'd known her since age 5.
She was always feminine, and one day when she came over to my house to play she spent the entire time playing with dolls with my sister (age 6). She never came...
I'm thinking that your wife's simmering discontent isn't all about you.
Couples therapy might be helpful. Talking it out is always good IF your partner is capable of examining their inner life.
...
Lying to protect yourself, and not serve selfish interests is noble.
It's 1943, you have false papers for you and your family to travel from Berlin to Spain. The Berlin ticket agent asks "Are you...
Gosh, I know just the insult to hurl at you: you're sane.
Sane in the sense that you know that even in 2023 people still judge harshly about gender transgressions and read into those...
She's insecure about her own feelings about your crossdressing, and she uses communication with friends to validate her concerns.
She doesn't strike me as someone who is able to embrace something...
There was a long running channel on YouTube called "Girl Time with Paola".
She gave all kinds of crossdressing tutorials (from makeup to deportment to relationships) and along the way discussed...
You've done the right thing by telling your GF about CeCe. And I think you've done the best thing by not dropping it all on her at a single time.
You also are doing the right thing by acknowledging...
Yep. In grad school. When we broke up she told every mutual friend we knew. To this day (more than 30 years later) I?ve had friends joke about it.
Prejudice has no gender. I've heard gay friends (who don't know about my proclivities) complain about men they consider "effeminate" and how it makes the gay male community look bad.
Our sexualities...
I might have left out the part about being invited to the basement (when you told your wife what was going on).
There is now a definite rivalry between them, and that might not heal. Also, your...
The point is to do things that youenjoy.
At the end of the day, it's what you experienced, and what you felt.
Think about somethings you'd like to do....sounds like you have the courage to do...
This is clearly an intensely private feeling and desire for you, and the fact that you are able to share it with your wife is fantastic.
It's going to take incremental steps to feel comfortable...
You've already taken a very positive step by joining here. You'll be exposed to a very broad range of experiences and desires.
I would say the next step might be going to a transformation service,...
Helen,
I applaud you for doing this, and I also recognize the courage it takes for someone like us to do it.
I hope it's a wonderfully memorable week.
Enjoy!
Chris
You can have more than one PayPal account. I'd suggest you have a second account with a separate credit card. The same for eBay and places like that.
That's what I do (and not because I'm hiding it...
Deebra,
The "best" answer I can think of is something along this line:
Thank you for telling me this. I know you took a risk sharing this with me. I respect your privacy on this.
How long have...
It's a great question, and a starting point for negotiations on this in your relationship.
Would you like your spouse to be doing more housework? Having Monnica attend to domestic chores while...
Self acceptance is great, and it must be accomplished to be whole.
However, if you are like the vast (vast!) majority of us humans, you need intimacy in your life, and that means someone else who...
Sarah,
Please, please, please make sure you see someone who is experienced with gender issues. It's very trendy now these days to claim to be a therapist with experience in trans issues, but...
Crossdressing is an excellent excuse to dislike your spouse if you are already unhappy in your marriage.
Best thing I heard all day.
Hi Adam, and welcome here.
You'll find that there are quite a few of us that share similar experiences and can offer both friendship and advice born from our lives.
I'm a physician, and I deal...
Don't drink alcohol for a week.
Spend 30 minutes each day in quiet reflection by yourself, no distractions.
The answer will come to you.
Chris
You are going to have to desensitize yourself to the negative feelings and thoughts that arise from a behavior that is not widely accepted by our culture at large, but which is quite common and...
Authenticity.