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To quote Bob Dylan, "I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them." I was told 15 years ago by a transsexual that I would eventually get over my denial and start...

We were friends for quite a while before we became romantically involved. I told her about me after we had been friends for a few months, and showed her pictures of Wendy. Before I knew it, she was...

This is why I never fly anymore; the invasion of personal space just gets more and more egregious, and I for one don't feel any safer for it. I'm waiting for the day when each passenger is...

I may go by two names, but I am only one person, regardless of how I'm dressed. There is more and more "leakage" in the wall of separation between my male and female aspects; i.e., I have an...

Kim, I can't add much that hasn't already been said. I can only say that I go through similar bouts from time to time, and that depression is usually lurking behind it. When in depression's...

I'm definitely thin-skinned. I take criticism poorly and don't do well with confrontations. Having said that, I have begun to care less and less about what others think in the past few years.

Friday night my wife and I made it to another of our church's women's group gatherings--me as Wendy, of course! There were a number of women there who had never encountered me en femme before. I...

1. I don't fully dress as Wendy unless I'm going somewhere. I might wear some articles of women's clothing at any given time, but it doesn't change the evening routine.

2. I occasionally...

I told my mom (and dad) when I was 28, shortly after going out for the first time and while still enveloped in the "pink fog". I had moved out of the house six years before, BTW. My mother was not...

IMHO, homophobia and transphobia are rooted is misogyny. Women are still seen as inferior to men for the most part, so men who "infect" themselves with anything related in people's minds to women...

I really appreciate all the thoughtful responses!



I can certainly relate to this. Doing a femme voice is the most difficult thing for me to do when presenting as Wendy. Somehow it seems fake...

Usually I feel a "yes" inside me. I feel like me, but somehow more at peace and free to let the suppressed of my personality surface. Sometimes, though, I feel constrained, that I'm embarrassed by...

There is still quite a bit of separation between my male and female personae (I just posted a new thread about this, in fact), but line has begun to blur a bit. I am always the same me in either...

Let me preface this post by saying that I know it doesn’t apply to everyone here. Now then. There’s much talk about passing, meaning that others perceive you as belonging to the gender as which...

I guess mostly a female version of myself. Unless I'm doing a costume party!

My wife and I started our relationship as friends, and I came out to her a few months after we'd first met. Within minutes of me telling her, she had me trying on clothes, shoes, and jewelry! She...

I spent a week en femme while on vacation. Similar to what others have said, it just became a chore after a while. Most of all the shaving--major permanent hair removal would be crucial if one were...

I often have similar feelings--especially in the past few years, where the signs of aging are encroaching upon me. I can see all the flaws, even if others don't (or think they're not flaws at all). ...

Ruth, I agree--I have found that the more I express my feminine side, in art and/or in life, the less it weighs upon me. Kind of like suppressing any kind of emotion, if you keep it bottled up, it...

For all the artists, writers, musicians, actors, comedians, dancers, and other creative folk out there: how (if at all) does your gender-differentness intersect with your creative expression?
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Conformity is a slippery creature. Imagine three beautifully and fashionably dressed, gorgeous women walking down the street. One dresses fashionably (i.e. conforms to current modes of fashion)...

Married for the first time almost four years ago. My wife is very accepting and participatory--she has bought me clothes, shared her clothes with me (and vice-versa), and has gone out in public with...

Nope--I have to keep my nails short on both hands. Long nails on my picking hand interferes with fingerpicking, and obviously long nails on the fretting hand are a no-go. Hey, that's why they make...

Your mileage may vary. In the days when I attended a support group regularly I was hit on several times. It made me uncomfortable; I wanted friendship and support in a safe environment, not a...

Having attended a number of church functions as Wendy, I can say that almost no one who knows my male identity recognizes me initially. Most eventually figure it out, especially if I'm there with my...