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this is part of why i'm so bothered by this. outside of this, i didn't think there was even a hint of the d word. i can't speak for her and i don't want to seem oblivious, but the biggest issues...

Pumped,

2 factors largely at play here.
one, i don't have much of a support system outside of her and my kids and her family
two, we are best friends. i could see a world where we're still...

To the best of my knowledge it wasn't happening before i told her about my dressing. Yes, we both use the monitoring app on occasion to check to see where the other is. This time though, the way she...

For the record, i'm not thinking of leaving her. During our discussions, it's her talking of ending things.
I believe she still loves me and is trying to figure out how or if she can accept me with...

this is so amazing. so happy for you candi!

on a related note to my other post from yesterday, i'm curious.
my wife says we'd still be friends if we were to divorce due to my CD.

for those of you that have already experienced a split due...

Thank you Jane, my fingers have been crossed all day waiting for her to speak up about help finding therapists on our network, but she's been working off and on so tomorrow may be more likely

Julie, the phone app discussion is one i'm holding in my pocket, but trying to avoid as it could also lead to "so you've been thinking about it" types of discussions.

as for my wife, we're both...

I'm still coming to terms with the "why". Some of it is the softness of particular clothing, some of it is the variety and cuteness of women's clothing. There's likely something else there deeper,...

I've made the suggestion about couples therapy. she'd like to try therapy on her own first and i'm ok with that.
i agree that part of her issues with it is how it may affect her if it ever became...

Stephanie,

My therapist has suggested many of the same offerings i've seen on this particular thread and many others like it (DADT, travel only, etc). The part of my wife watching my every move is...

thanks to everyone for all the replies.

she has now admitted that she wants to see a therapist as well. I never told her she needed to, but after seeing me going to one, she's come the realization...

Hello ladies,

It's been a couple months since i last posted about my current situation, and I appreciate all the support and suggestions that were offered on my last post.

Since my wife told me...

This is exactly the way i tried to start. At first she was passive about it, but after seeing me in it multiple times, things turned south very quickly. We're rebounding currently but rebounding does...

Julie, you're 100% correct. and this was another part of our discussion over the weekend. i could not tell her that it would never happen again. i did tell her i would get rid of what I had. For her...

For what it's worth, the discussion over the weekend was very calm. I knew the moment she told me she couldn't see me like that and that she was turned off, the only place i could go was apologetic...

It's been a difficult few days.

Sunday morning my wife told me she didn't like seeing me in my nightgowns and that it was a turnoff. It was the first time we'd discussed anything about my dressing...

so happy for you heather. that's a big step

i'm guessing my mother had a clue that i tried on some of her clothes when i was younger. i don't believe she'd be accepting of knowing the full truth

good for you ameejo! i did similar, about 2 weeks ago, i shaved my goatee off for the first time in about 8 years

fantastic joan, so glad it worked out for you

Yes, i've been with my wife for over 18 years and there were several times where i'd be joking around. once i was bringing the clean clothes up to the bedroom and one of her nude bras was laying on...

My situation is similar to others here.

For years, my wife has known I've had a feminine side. We've joked and teased about how I'm comfortable wearing women's clothes, but to her knowledge it was...

congrats, so happy for you deedee!

i very much get that i'm tempting fate. i want to talk with my kids about it, but i'm worried about their reaction. it was tough enough handling my wife's reaction. not sure i am ready for them to...