Peering a little deeper, you may be on the cusp of saving him from a life of frustration. He may never have knowingly met a transgender person and may have wrongly thought that he was somehow dirty,...
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Peering a little deeper, you may be on the cusp of saving him from a life of frustration. He may never have knowingly met a transgender person and may have wrongly thought that he was somehow dirty,...
Deebra, your words paint a beautiful picture of a wonderful day. I'm very happy for you.
Among the various motivations I read here, dressing seems to be a big one, and being seems to be another...
I'm going to go off in another direction ("So what else is new Val?")
That experience was actually very positive. You were out in public and nothing bad happened. With the exception of intent,...
I am Soooo happy for you Donna.
It sounds like you are now at that wonderful point where you finally ACCEPT that you are never going to find your own happiness without risking others' happiness,...
The actual true value of something, anything, is exactly what the buyer and seller agree upon.
So ... what's your femininity worth? Can it be bought with some tears and an accusation?
Yes,...
Let me preface this by saying that I am a woman, albeit a senior woman with a male anatomy.
My goal is to dress in a way that makes me feel comfortable. Socially comfortable, physically...
There are several approaches. Each has its proponents, and none of the proponents endorse all the other approaches. Each of the approaches has been discussed at length in this forum. Researching it...
The very first TG or TS person I ever knowingly met was a local Detroit area gal I met on this forum. I was her first encounter too. We had a nice lunch and a great chat. Since then, I have no idea...
Courtney, it was great meeting you and being a part of your exciting weekend. We know all too well how amazing these quarterly outings can be. We all had more fun together than any of us could have...
My experience is quite different from most, and is similar to PaulaQ's.
Like others, I was quite fond of explicit images and self-satisfaction. That desire diminished considerably when I began...
Prelude
something that comes before and prepares for the main or more important parts
(Merriam -Webster dictionary)
Best wishes
MsVal
In due time, with occasional exposure, your wife may become acclimated to seeing you dressed. This path is not straightforward, nor is is without risk. However, your own peace of mind could otherwise...
Hooray for you! <grin>
I'm willing to bet that you changed from a friendly, helpful guy to a friendly helpful gal, and your colleagues responded appropriately.
"You get what you give." Funny...
Teresa and I are on similar journeys to the same destination - happiness. I venture to say that the rest of us here seek the same. We all travel different paths and have different obstacles to...
Sometimes it is better for two people to find their own happiness separately than for those two people to remain unhappy together.
Best wishes
MsVal
Implants? I don't think so. I'm satisfied with the way mine are growing. Like Karl_B, I too am 5'-4" and a 36B. They are pretty obvious when I wear a snug T-shirt. Nearly all strangers that choose to...
For your first time out I recommend that you forego the fancy clothes and mannerisms. If you dress like other women dress and behave in a confident manner no one will challenge you. You would be wise...
Teresa, you already know that you need to do what is right for YOU and your wife needs to do what is right for HER. You (and I by the way) cannot continue to "own" other's problems.
So - Do it. Do...
Wow, that sounds SO familiar.
Eva, my advice to you is to disregard labels and follow your heart.
I wondered the same things that you do. Worse still, the introspection resulted in different...
I'll let you know in at the end of next week. I have a series of disclosure meetings with my seven kids and their four spouses.
I HAVE TO do this, and the anxiety headaches are awful.
Best...
China, I'm going to make a couple of assumptions. First, I assume you live at home, and second is that the family member is a parent.
If those are valid, then I believe you are in a position of...
Wow! The feeling of liberation jumps out of your words and into my heart. You went to find the monsters under your bed and found only dust bunnies. I am soooo happy for you.
Best wishes
MsVal
Dear Laura, does this sound familiar?
Your heart aches for something that you struggle to identify, and if identified, difficult to express. Doubts arise about your true identity and a path to...
Despite having spent many years in them, I feel somewhat out of place dressing in unmistakably masculine clothes (e.g. suit and tie). It's not that I feel poorly, but I am constantly aware and...
With the recent public awareness of transgender issues came the awareness of how to how to address transgender persons, and buy extension, how to treat them. I wonder if "Use the pronoun that matches...