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Huge deal, don't minimize it! This is the first time you've let this part of yourself be seen by a person other than your wife, even if you weren't dressed at the time. That takes no small amount...

Sounds like a great adventure! Those little victories are important, they add up and inspire confidence for the bigger steps to come!

I agree that you should tell your therapist, since they need to understand this part of you to work with you effectively. However, I will caution you that not all therapists are comfortable with...

Katey, curious why you disagree with the assertion that CD and TS are on the same spectrum. My journey started as CD (mislabeled as TVF), but has trended TG over time as I have realized that my GID...

It was a one-time clearance sale for a store that had already closed, held in a women-only yoga studio. The changing room was the locker room - open, no privacy. No male equivalent. There were a...

I do think that going out dressed can help us experience shedding our male privilege and being related to as "less than" or even objectified, as so many women are. But then, we can just shed the...

IS CD.com really "clean"? I'm not directing this at anyone in particular, but since I've become more active here (particularly since I posted a profile pic), I've been getting friend requests from...

Was out to brunch with a friend yesterday, and she mentioned this boutique clothing sale she was planning on going to later in the day. Since I'm already out to her, and could always use a few new...

Congrats! Feels good to be authentic with loved ones, doesn't it? :) Out of curiosity, what finally spurred you to take the plunge?

Wow, congratulations Isha! I hope you are appropriately celebrating this amazing accomplishment!

Thanks everyone for the comments! :) Isha, your words ring true, this is definitely more than just dressing, but getting there is going to be a gradual process.



Fair enough. You are a good...

I'm 40, my parents are both 70-ish, technically Boomers but more Great Generation in their values. My dad is really locked in to the binary and the traditional construction of the male gender role,...

I am more likely to want to dress when I'm in a rough place, because it soothes me and doing my makeup gives me a welcome distraction, but I still have desire to dress when things are great, too. ...

I love it! Aunt Suzanne! :) Can I call you that? ;)



Curious what your wife's reasons are for that. Is it about appearances, safety, or something else? Does she otherwise embrace your...

Hi Blue Orchid, never compelled to tell anyone, or unwilling to subject your relationships to the test of coming out? I feel compelled to tell certain people. I feel I am withholding my authentic...

Both, but more fiscally conservative than socially. Their trans- and homophobia is almost entirely a product of lack of exposure, although it has certainly been reinforced by conservative media...

+1 to what others have already said. The Pink Fog comes in waves, sometimes strong, sometimes not at all. When it hits, I lean in more and dress more at home, and tend to spend a lot of time...

Not sure I'm quite ready, but I think I will have to broach it with my mother soon, as I'm clearly going to out myself if I don't! I think she will be confused and think that it's her fault somehow,...

So I was hanging out with my parents on the 4th (they know nothing about my girl side), and my mom was complementing me on my shirt. Without thinking, I said "yeah, I finally knuckled down and...

Research strongly supports what everyone is saying here - therapy is next to useless if you don't have a strong relationship with your therapist. Shop around until you find someone you like. Some...

This makes so much sense, thank you for this perspective! As hetero-identifying men, many of us CD'ers still hold heteronormative and homophobic ideas, and I can see why some gay men are reluctant...

Depression, anxiety, anger, and emotional withdrawal for me. And hypoactive sex drive.

Many do. It's a way of making sure the new skills and perspectives you aquire in-session generalize to your outside life, as well as encouraging ongoing process outside of therapy. It's usually...

I'm guessing that gay men in your community have to work hard to legitimize themselves, and a lot of that depends on not sticking out too much. Then we come along and attract attention (because...

He may be too young to cognitively understand something as abstract as social norms now, but on an emotional level, he can sense approval or disapproval. Whether he is expressing himself or merely...