Good question! For me two things... I was in a relationship with a woman that said I was overthinking and it really was not as big a deal as I had made it out to be. The other was a therapist who...
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Good question! For me two things... I was in a relationship with a woman that said I was overthinking and it really was not as big a deal as I had made it out to be. The other was a therapist who...
Hi. I thought your letter was very heartfelt. A couple of observations... 1. I think you?re being far too self deprecating. It comes out sounding more guilty than anything else. 2. Search for a...
I confided to my former GF about my dressing. I was incredibly nervous and it took me quite a while to screw up the courage. When I finally did (haltingly) tell her, her response was, “i think...
Thanks Leslie. I Know what you say is true. My former GG GF was very accepting but she saw it as costumes. For me it has always been more complicated than that. Oh well.
Hi and thanks for the response. “Cheating” was probably the wrong term. I’m not really looking for permission. I guess I was just expressing that I am lonely by myself and I wish I could...
Hi. I suspect others may be in the same position so I thought I see how others might deal with this problem. I’ve been dressing up for a long time but always alone. I am in a heterosexual...
Some of the comments sound so judgemental. I think she’s being brave. It’s all realative. Overcoming anything scary is all about taking little steps. We girls need to stick together and lift each...
It is such a double standard but when I see a woman dresssing up and acting as a man I always wonder what they get out of it. I feel so hypocritical! Of all people, I should understand better.
I'm heartened by the girls who stand up against this mysoginistic crap. I am appalled by how many men on this site support it. STOP BLAMING WOMEN FOR YOUR SELF ESTEEM ISSUES! I am seriously...
Being laughed at, not laugh with.
Friends, associates and family finding out.
Your experience mirror's mine, except I haven't gone out yet. But it starts out of nowhere and grows and grows then goes away. I used to dread the intense feelings but now I embrace it. I even...
I think ppl should lighten up on the getting caught paranoia. It's Halloween and of course people get passes for their alteregos. My GF spends an inordinate amount of time getting every detail of...
I'm sure it seemed like a good idea at the time! :) You facetimed her?! Too funny! Glad it all worked out.
Hugs,
Katie
There is a difference between keeping a secret and being private.
Try not to grow it into a big monster in your head. It doesn't have to be a BIG deal.
Wow... Talk about a blast from the past! What a beautiful, bitter sweet story! Reminds me of the book Madison County. For me your story was much less about a slip than about a road not taken. I...
All the women in my family would wear something red for luck in Vegas (including panties). I'm continuing.the family tradition!
Thanks everyone! This forum is awesome!
Thank you wbdavid and Angie for your replies. It always feels good to be connected with others. The greatest gift of my GF's acceptance is helping me put my dressing in context. I may not feel...
I think the hugely varied answers really point to how nuanced the question is. I doubt that there is a black and white, definitive answer to your question, even for "alpha males". It would be like...
My GF is totally ok with my dressing. She has given me so many of her old panties to wear that I have donated bags full to Goodwill. We always talk when I get some new cute or sexy thing. We text...
Good for you! I've found counseling tremendously helpful at different times in my life. My only advice would be to tell them everything and be honest. Otherwise they can't help. It sounds like...
Without knowing the backstory of why she's dressed that way I am holding my judgement. She may have had no choice for some reason. To me it bears similarities to how some people feel toward CD's in...
I had a similar experience (we're the same age FWIW). You have a great opportunity. I would wait until you were having a regular conversation (not flirting) and casually revisit the subject... "you...
Some therapists do it only for the money but those are the hacks and not very good. That's true of any profession.
I think there is a chemical component to the shame and guilt many of us have experienced. When I was younger the need to dress would come over me and escalate to the point of near compulsion. It...