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We spend so much time rehashing the why, to no one's satisfaction BTW, when we should just be enjoying the ride.

Why? Because we can.

https://youtu.be/g_cwuRmjhsY

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and...

I tried Tinder for a while and got a lot of responses from mostly obnoxious middle-aged men looking for quick, NSA "relief." Gave up after the umpteenth one.

Your biggest challenge is not that you "don't pass" (very very few of us ever do), or that you will be outed (mostly likely by being spotted by a friend, neighbor, or coworker while getting out of...

Legitimate question. However, today no one literally cares. In this world of unprecedented diversity, ze/zem pronouns and made up or composite names, no one cares what your name is. Wear it proudly,...

There is no clothes that a woman could wear to generate the same reaction or stigma for a very basic reason. Our society values men above women. The idea that a man would voluntarily reduce his...

Breaking news: old happens. We don't look like we did 5, 10, or 15 years ago and we shouldn't expect to. We adapt to what we look like now. When I was younger I would wear ****ty trappy outfits with...

Some of us decided a while back that it was not worth the turmoil and loss to change our vanilla lives at this point. Whatever works for you and your situation is all that matters. No two will be the...

Audrey, I know that feeling but trust me, it wasn't your lack of makeup that triggered those losers. You could have had Kim K's makeup artist work on your face but a group of CDs will always stand...

I guess it all depends on the environment. I am very careful about touching other people in any way, unless they are expressly asking for it. However, I have been in settings where I was groped...

The world is changing. I have had lots of fun being out dressed and partying in some rather backwards or, to say the least, conservative places. I have also been randomly heckled a handful of times...

Helen, exactly! It's one thing to have a great time at a LGBT spot, be the center of attention among people who put us in the "other" category, or to go out with someone "under cover of darkness" and...

So, I've been a member of this wonderful group for a few years now and I have to say that it's refreshing to see the diversity of opinions and experiences reflected on here. We all have so much to...

Welcome. Since this is all new to you, you are in a great spot to approach the topic with your wife.

Olivia, Helen offers good advice. I would add driving to a town that's far enough away to calm your fears about encountering a neighbor, then stopping at a gas station to pump a few dollars of gas...

Always a good idea to have a bag with the essentials handy in the car: jeans, shirt, sneakers, makeup removal wipes.

Don't bring it up with her. Bask in the glow of knowing that she knows and doesn't care either way. You run the risk of creeping her out by bringing it up.

Isn't it wonderful? I have experienced this a few times, mostly coming from people much younger than I am. Kindness is powerful.

So funny and true. Many of us have been imprinted with the image of legs in sheer panty hose as an ultra femenine thing. Indeed, 99% of women (who aren't senior citizens) don't wear them today. Maybe...

That's a whole lot of words. Nope. Still no answer.

I spent decades trying to rationalize why I do this. I gave that up a few years ago. It's just a part of who I am. I got my start around age 7 or 8 because it was something I needed to do. No logic...

I'm with Sandi. I have had cis women approach me in every imaginable setting, wanting to chat, hang out, and yes even go out clubbing or bar hopping. And, yes, I have actually been to church services...

Some guys have the ability to mimic the sound of a more feminine voice. You should not worry about that. At least not for now. Chances are, you could sound like Taylor Swift and still look very much...

What fallout? It's your choice to tell the world, embrace it. The more convoluted you make this process of rolling out the news, the more "fallout" you will have to deal with. If, for example, my...

My partner is of the opinion that any man who wears women's clothes is on the fast track to transitioning. Therefore, it has been impossible to even approach the subject matter with her. Yet, I...