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When you let go of the guilt and shame about being who you are, the fear will just evaporate. You no longer worry about being "caught", because you realize that you are doing nothing wrong. Yes, I...

I will take heat for this, regardless, but let me say up front that I support an individual's right to adopt whatever manner of dress they choose. There...
Now then... There is a big difference...

Yes, it is true. Most of us male-at-birth, and who went through male puberty have voices that will never be mistaken for female.

Agreed, but the case of the fetish dresser is rather a subset of the wide variety of TG people here. Nevertheless, your complaint is valid for any partner who feels like their relationship is...

As Lana May says, passing is a myth. It is also not required. Oh, "blending" is often an attainable goal. Age and venue appropriate dress, feminine gait and mannerisms, all will help you to escape...

The implication is that CD'ing is equivalent to sexual infidelity. That's a false equivalence. Yes, both involve deception, which is never a healthy thing for a relationship, but there the similarity...

Not ethical in anything other than a generic social event where, of course, your birth gender is nobody's business.

Agree, 100%, that "acceptance" is probably too slippery a term to produce anything close to credible numbers. But given that stipulation, my off-hand estimate, based on the few years I've been here,...

Yeah, DL photos, it seems, are engineered to look bad. Then again, maybe it's just the two-hour wait that has us looking like that.

Excellent point, Charlotte. Still, I believe Nichola might benefit from some professional analysis of her feelings. What she's describing could easily be gender dysphoria.

We are all individuals. What a cross-dresser calls going out, a TS might call just doing life. Likewise, crossdressers who enjoy going out en femme, may do so for different reasons. Some relish the...

If the relationship is based on your partner not knowing something about you that is this important, it's already "messed up". If you are serious about the relationship, have "the talk".

Out of control behavior while drunk is warning sign. Pay attention.

As many of you are no doubt aware, there is a currently a coordinated national strategy to pass laws, at the state level, attacking transgender people, especially trans kids. As I reported in a...

This. SO this.
As hard as it will be, the most loving thing you can do for all involved is to try to get your brother to understand that his view of his son's identity is not OK. I'd ask, point...

If you are comfortable walking in the heels, feel free to go with those. Otherwise, go with flats. Wobbling around on heels is not something you want to have to deal with on your first outing. :)...

Not today - working. Saturday though, a few of us will be attending a Beto for Texas Town Hall event.

If you are choosing a label for someone else, you are ignoring what they would prefer. That's not the same as using a label to describe a group. Crossdressers are all crossdressers, but I would...

Yes, and no.
I certainly understand grieving for those years lost while living as someone other than who you really are. But we all have only the time we have left. Why not live every minute of...

It's impossible for us to say, but this turnabout seems like an excuse or rationalization for other, not-yet-expressed grievances.

Micki's so right. You are considering an expensive, permanent body modification that you want to hide. There are good reasons for top surgery, just as there are good reasons for bottom surgery, FFS,...

That's a wonderful share. Thank you. Now...
Get your ass busy and do something that is at least equally wonderful for that very special woman. :)

Similar experience? Yes, in many ways. It was not until I came to grips with the knowledge that I who I am, regardless of what others think, that "passing" ceased to matter. That's not to say I'd...

Gwen,
First of all, good on ya' for sharing early on in your relationship as much as you did.
Take Di's advice, every word of it. You may not understand a lot about this side of yourself, but your...

At the time, I still identified as a cross-dresser, but still told my current wife as soon as the relationship started to gain serious traction. Honestly, it wasn't that hard. I had already made...