I just received bad news today and i'm still trying to make heads or tails of it.
seems a friend and sister in heels went out and had srs. the problem is she did not bother to inform her wife, she just went to taiwan to "teach" and came back last christmas, sat his wife down to let her know. how could someone destroy a supportive wife like that? makes no sense to me at all.
when in doubt, dress
He certainly let her know who came first in his life! Divorce next?
Stephanie
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the divorce is already in the works,
when in doubt, dress
It just breaks my heart to read that. I'm speachless.
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[SIZE="3"]Doesn't make sense to me, either. That's nuts if you ask me.
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"Don't let anyone define who you are".
the really sad part is she would have supported him and been there through the surgery if he consulted her about it.
when in doubt, dress
Not cool at all... Pretty sad
If I pulled that kinda stupid move on my wife I could have saved all the money on SRS......she would do it for free with a dull knife.........Just remember when you deal with your wife......you gotta sleep some time!
Wow, that's just all out messed up. I don't know what to say about that other than I feel terrible for his wife.
"Thoughts are the shadows of feelings, always darker, emptier, and simpler. I don't care if they're fake or real, I just thank them for showing up at all. I have black periods. Who does not? But they are part of me; they are not a part of illness, but a part of my being. What am I saying? I have the courage to have them. Four o' clock in the morning. This sucks." - Alkaline Trio - Warbrain (First line courtesy of Nietzsche)
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This post is as far as I've read so far, she wanted out of the relationship if you ask me, very easy to see. As you said, divorce is in the works, how much you wanna bet she's someone's wife down the road. I think thats what she really wanted from the git go.Originally Posted by kym
What she did to her wife is inexcusable IMHO, I really feel for her
If I had been this sisters friend, I would now be this sisters ex-friend.
This sister did more than destroy the trust in her relationship, she ripped it to shreds. I feel that anyone who would do that to her so would find it even easier to do something similar to someone else. For just one example if you were still in the closet would you trust this person with your secret?
Marcie M sees my point in posting this, and for once i completely agree with her.
NV lady your right on target as well. thanks ladies for supporting my position in this post.
when in doubt, dress
Nice going Einstein!
So I like dressing like girl. BIG DEAL!
WHAT A STUPID SISTER ! What else can you say ? Uncaring ? This is a prime example of how not to inform your spouse
JoAnne Wheeler
and you wonder why new gg who come her to learn more about us will not be amused by this...
that was so very wrong ...
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Well as much as I'm puzzled and dismayed about what is being presented here, I'm unwilling to pass judgement just yet. We're being given one perspective of one side of the whole situation. Is it possible somehow that there's more to this than we're privy to? I can only hope so! Like I say, if these are the full and complete facts then I'm shocked and dismayed that things went the way they did but I guess I'm hoping there's something to this story that I just don't know that might at least explain it a little more in some way
logically if someone was just self centred theyd announce they were doing it regardless of anyone elses thoughts. A self centred person does not consider other peoples opinions at all. To do so in secret means that fear HAD to be involved. Because humans lie to avoid judgement punishment interferance or consequences. There are no other reasons to lie other than to avoid. If she was self centred shed not care about others opinions and therefore not be concerned about the wives possible dissaproval.
So then no matter how much she was in error she believed that she had to be deceptive about this.
So then, the question is, before we can judge fairly, why she had that belief erroneous or not?
thanks MJ
how is her wife coping Kym?
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Unfortunate to say the least.
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Selfish is not the word I would use , more like self destructive . I've met few TS like that. Then end result was suicide . Rushed in thinking every thing would be perfect after wards and when their world collapses they decide to check out .
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First a groom then a bride. Never again.
shes still in shock and denial, but she is getting counseling to help her deal with this. now her "husband" is having a real rough time of it and no one is willing to be supportive of the person. I know that stories get twisted as they get passed around and such, however this is first hand info from the wife and i spoke to the sister about it and she/he confirmed the details. the statement that was made that struck me the most was" i did this for me, to feel like i was finally the correct gender." when i inquired about the wifes feelings i was told that since they were apart at the time it wasn't her choice and her feelings played NO PART in the decision. I am ending the friendship because of the circumstances and a few other things that have happened along those lines. I'm just dumbfounded at how someone can make such a drastic decision with out consulting their partner or considering anyone elses feelings on the matter. I for one have no problem with any person having srs if its right for them and its done in the right way(meaning thoughtful of others feelings that may be involved and thoughtful of what kind of image it sends to the world about us)but this was done in the wrong way in so many ways. for those who don't understand the proces: in the US it can literally take years of living as the opposite gender and hormone therapy before the doctors even consider you as a possible canidate for srs. In taiwan and other places overseas all it takes is the right amount of cash to get it done and it doesn't take much at that, the procedure supposedly cost him/her around $2500 US dollars. very sad and scary indeed.
when in doubt, dress
Well the selfishness goes way beyond the need to be selfish about one's needs to be female. I have discussed my options with the only person that matters to me.... my daughter. And i can't imagine ever being in a place where I would just go and have the surgery with out at least telling her. Not that she could change my mind, which she wouldn't she's my biggest cheering section, but to make that big a change without preparing her eeeeee. I agree with others that there must have been a reason that will only be known to the only two people it matters too. The sister and her so. The rest of us can speculate until the cow's jump over the blue moon...... but only they will live with the consequence's. carol.
Why not?
Are you saying they were split up and living apart or just that he was away?
Why? you've already said he has no one to support him/her, it doesn't matter whether you believe what he/she did was right or wrong, everyone needs support. I think you're wrong ending the friendship, a good friend supports friends through thick and thin and it sounds like he/she needs a friend right now. How would you feel if it was you?
People make mistakes all the time, they don't think, but you've said they were apart, so what reason did he/she have for consulting anyone? Isn't it his/her life?
You obviously do have a problem with it, there is no right and wrong way to do something, he/she obviously felt this was the right thing to do, and often it hurts others in the process, but you of all people should know that often a TS cannot live their life in the wrong body and will go to hell and back to make it right.
I really cannot understand how people on this forum can judge a person without knowing ALL the facts, we don't even know this person, yet you've already judged her for doing something she felt she needed to do. I thought this was a support forum, where's the support? I just hope when any of youup, you will think twice about what you've said here, about this TS who obviously needs support, who is probably scared shitless right now and is going to lose everything, all because she wanted to live the life she feels is right for her. Don't condemn a person without knowing all the facts, it's not cool at all
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That was just cold She must be one of the ME ME ME types with no regard to others. I'd say a creep. and some other off color names.
Angie
Last edited by Angie G; 02-22-2009 at 09:54 AM.
I'd say you're absolutely correct with your evaluation of this individual. zero regard for others is not the way to go about doing this type of thing.That was just cold She must be one of the ME ME ME types with no regard to others. I'd say a creep. and some other off color names.
Angie
