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    Are you comfortable, in the presence of men?

    I know we all love the company of GGs but I am curious, do you find being in the presence of men a comfortable experience.

    Admittedly I once felt uneasy being Daphne around men, The more confident I became, the less I cared.

    I was doing some window shopping in New Hope a couple of weeks ago. Stopped into a bar and had a couple of drinks. A fellow started talking to me and to make a long story short we had a nice chat. We had a great time and wound up closing the place. When we were leaving he helped me off my bar stool and gave me a friendship peck on the cheek. I consider myself a straight man/lesbian woman. In any case I am married and one hundred percent faithful. He knew this by the way I wasn't leading him on in any way.

    I was practically drunk of the attention. And although I am not sure I would actively seek it, I certainly wouldn't push it away.
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    I haven't ventured out in public en femme yet, but to be honest, the thought of being around men is rather scary for me. I'm pretty sure I'd try not to interact with any when I finally do venture out for the main reason I can't talk in a feminine voice yet.

    My main concern is that it's not very cd-friendly where I live. To be read by a man could potentially be dangerous.

    As of right now, I am not comfortable around men (en femme) at all, but I have yet to experience what that's like.

    Sounds like you've recently enjoyed a positive experience, Daphne. Did the man you had a nice chat with know you're a cd? Was that part of the conversation? Would you say you live in a generally more open-minded area?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gabrielle Hermosa View Post
    I haven't ventured out in public en femme yet, but to be honest, the thought of being around men is rather scary for me. I'm pretty sure I'd try not to interact with any when I finally do venture out for the main reason I can't talk in a feminine voice yet.

    My main concern is that it's not very cd-friendly where I live. To be read by a man could potentially be dangerous.

    As of right now, I am not comfortable around men (en femme) at all, but I have yet to experience what that's like.

    Sounds like you've recently enjoyed a positive experience, Daphne. Did the man you had a nice chat with know you're a cd? Was that part of the conversation? Would you say you live in a generally more open-minded area?
    Yes I believe the gentleman knew I was a CD as a matter of fact I am sure of it. I am not quite sure what his attraction was. I pass on energy and attitude when presenting as Daphne. Not as much on looks.

    I do live in a liberal part of the country, NJ and New Hope PA is a quite friendly place.

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    I'm comphy around anyone..

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    I have never been comfortable around men. And that includes in male mode as well.

    I have always been more comfortable in the presence of woman and have always related to woman.

    This has been the case since I reached puberty.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vicky_Scot View Post
    I have never been comfortable around men. And that includes in male mode as well.

    I have always been more comfortable in the presence of woman and have always related to woman.

    This has been the case since I reached puberty.

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    +1. Although, for me the constant feeling of 'paranoia' about being around predatory males started way before puberty, probably when I was around 7.

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    I feel very comfontable with men around. I like men looking at me!

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    Although I have not had any problems/comments from men, I too feel most uncomfortable around them when dressed as Annie. I am sure that my feelings are brought on by my own self perception and I am working on being as confident around men as I am around women. It is a never-ending struggle.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tania Maria Lopez View Post
    I feel very comfontable with men around. I like men looking at me!
    ditto---and when they do, I like to make them My pets.
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    Generally, I'm comfortable enough around men who happen to know that I'm no lady! As long as that's out on the table and interaction is comfortable within the group I'm in, then I feel safe enough.

    The problem's could sometimes come when the fellas are not aware that I'm no lady. There is always the possibilty that things could go wrong although thankfully I've yet to encounter such a situation. I do know of friends who have had some nasty run in's with this.

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    I'm not out to anyone but my wife So I'm not sure how I would feel being dressed around man I would hope I could handle it. Well I dought it's ever going to happen.
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    Yes, especially if they are "interested"

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    NO - I do not like or care to be around MEN

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    Very much so.

    Guys are cool.

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    No when im dressed I try to stay out of the way of men they make me feel very uneasy

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    Oh yes... I'm very comfortable.
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    Sort of the whole idea of dressing sexy is to be noticed. Male or female (I really like it when females give that disdainful look as they walk around in their sweats). OK so I am a tease. What can I say?

    In reality I like being around men in a club setting MORE than being around CD's in a club setting. I get cold shoulders and snide remarks around here form "girls" who think that a pink skirt, baby blue nylons, and a chartreuse top is a fashion statement. But that is another thread. At least the men try to be sociable, even if they alternative plans
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    I am not comfortable around men when dressed out of concern that should they mistaken me for a GG (admittedly tough to do) and then find out otherwise, they may react inappropriately. I dress nicely for the same reason most women do and that is to look good in the eyes of other women. One reason i frequent salons so much is that there are raely many males around. As another post said i am a CD lesbian, no interest in men.
    On the flip side, many people have told me how confident and secure I am when enmale. Once again an example of the inconguence within one mind.

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    I'm uncomforable around men. When in drab mode, I naturally insert myself into a GG gathering, whether i'm in the dissusion or not. It could be the safety in numbers thing. The few times I have been enfem, I stay away from men all together, to date this has only been during shopping/browing/letting Alice get some sun. I was just thinking, that doesn't make logical sense. I will have to look at this again, later.

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    No, honestly I'm not. It's not so bad that I would let it influence wether I went some place or not, but being around men makes me nervous. There's always the thought in the back of my head that someday I might run across some guy that just can't stand the thought of us and he might feel obligated to make a fuss. It's never happened, but still it concerns me

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    I would be comfortable, and have been, around any man that is polite, respectful, and has an interesting personality. All too often, I meet someone who is either drunk, an/or just plain horny. I am not shy about telling them to back off, or that they are being rude, etc. I actually have learned some things too. Like how guys will try everything in the book to get you to leave with them. They can be very persuasive. But since I am married, and since I know all about that, it doesn't work on me. Still, it's amazing to what lengths they will go to, like:

    --my friend left me here, can you give me a ride home?
    --I had a little too much to drink, would you mind running me home?
    --how about a nightcap, I have a place just around the corner
    --you are the sexiest woman alive ( I am not)...
    --I feel really close to you, etc
    --you have beautiful eyes
    etc,etc,etc.


    It doesn't matter as I will not cheat on my wife, but I do find it pleasant to have a discourse, with a witty, charming man who is just interested in passing the time of day with a like person, that appears female. Especially when they treat me like a woman. Most men would know that I am a cder btw.

    In guy mode, I would be uncomfortable passing the time of day the same way, but would have no problem if it was strictly guy stuff.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tania Maria Lopez View Post
    I feel very comfontable with men around. I like men looking at me!
    I do also, that's one of the reasons that I dress enfemme.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Karren Hutton View Post
    I'm comphy around anyone..

    And hopefully you walked home or called a cab to take you!! Drunk driving isn't to smart, no mater how your dressed!!
    I probbably should have, I really was high on life there for a while.
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