I get mixed signals from some folks here a lot of times, especially when they comment on different subjects. Some of the responses are definately of the "fruity" variety, such as "getting my hair cut/styled like a woman", "getting my nails done and/or pedicure weekly", "taking voice and/or walking lessons." WTF? Not that I'm specifically picking on anyone and I know excitement can build when we do things to "emulate" women but do some really "listen" to themselves when they say this? I tend to think some folks are really TS rather than CDers. I do realize getting to know who we are is part of it but I'm wondering what some (especially some with accepting SO's) really consider themselves to be?
It doesn't surprise me in the least when some SO's read their partners' comments on here and possibly question the true intention of dressing to begin with. That could scare the pants off of a mountain lion and I have to really admire the devotion of some of these women to their partners. The object to me is to come off understanding the feelings associated with CDing with dignity and not sounding like some kind of "pansy" and at the same time being able to enjoy who we are as a person. Sometimes I think though that through trying to "fit in" with others, we actually place ourselves in a diminished capacity without realizing it. We really cannot complain about others putting us down when we, ourselves, do it with word and deed.
Anyway, I'm wondering what others here really consider themselves to be? A "man", a "woman" or something in-between? Myself? I've gone way past the gender nonsense and just consider myself a person with "male" and "female" aspects. Much easier that way.
Originally Posted by Lisa Golightly
or i am a woman !
