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[naina]

Hello everyone,

I have not posted here much, however I have been reading posts and it has been a delight to see a community out there.

I have a question for young folks out there and here's my story

I am living away from home, and am able to dress up everyday except when I come home and go straight to bed. The dressing up part is all good but other than that I do not have a good group of friends, I work too many long hours, dont get home cooked food.....etc. so I was thinking of going back home and living with my parents and joining my dad's business. And I will not be able to dress up at home, not at all....

what do you think? should I go home and get all of the above +more or should I live away from home and be able to dress up??

[az_azeel]

Naina,
Hi im not so much a young one anymore but maybe i can offer advice from an old head...

I take it comming out to your parents is not an option.. !!
however a regular wage, good food, home comforts could outway the discomforts of living away from home..
perhaps once your settled with your dad's business you could then get your own place and continue your dressing that way.
Are you living a long way from home at the moment ?
End of the day the decision will be yours but if you are missing home in anyway.. that would make my decision a little easier..

[DonnaT]

We are missing some key points, which makes it hard to advise.

Is your current job/work good? Is the salary good? Is there a possibility of being laid off due to the current economic climate?

Why did you leave home?

How do your folks feel about you moving home? Would your dad's business have a place for you? How would the salary compare?

My 53 years young take, don't move back home unless it's absolutely necessary. Learn to cook.

If you are use to dressing, not being able to do so is worse, IMO, than the bit about not having friends.

What are your friends back home up to? Friends tend grow apart as they get older and move on to different career paths.

[Jacueen]

I'm 55 and had been living away from home since I got out of college. Then, 5 years ago, I moved back home to help my mother take care of my 90-year old father when he became terminal. Until he passed we (my son and I) lived with them.

Early 2005 my son and I got our own place, but it's only four blocks from my mother's house. She's still self sufficient, but since she's now 93 and living alone after nearlt 70 years with my dad, I spend a lot of time keeping her company.

How does this all relate to your situation? Just this: I crossdress 98% of the time, even when I'm with her, and she doesn't even know! Granted, when I'm with her (or in public,) I'm in femme-lite mode: No skirts or dresses, always jeans or pants, but they're women's jeans or pants. No heels, but women's sneakers or flats. No heavy eyeshadow or black mascara, but neutral (light pink) shadow and clear mascara.

If you explore all the forums, I'm sure you could find several tips that would let you continue to crossdress for your own enjoyment, even when those around you don't know that you're crossing.

Depending on your CD needs/wants/habits that might help you find a temporarily workable solution.

Jacueen

[sarahNZ]

My take on this is that you need to start looking after your self, mom and dad are not always going to be there to hold your hand so sooner or later the time will come when you just have to get along without them. They will still be there to give you some back up if and when needed for now.

If you have a job which means income that is a good start, and a place to call your own... even better. I wonder how many times you have cooked yourself a good old fashioned home made meal? I live on my own and find that something as simple as rice fried up in a pan with some mixed veges and a lump of meat cut in can feed me for 2-3 days, the trick is to make more than you will use that day and put the rest in a container in the fridge to re-heat later. Just a thought.

As for the friend base... you are young... socialise, go out to a night club or bar on a friday or saturday night, meet people. You do not have to be CD at the time but go out for your own sake. My fav place to socialise when your age was a quite enough cafe/bar with a lot of pool tables, that way I got to meet a lot of people on a very tight budget, some of whitch I am still friends with 10 years later.

So in summary I guess what I am saying is spread your wings and discover your self, and if all else fails your parents can still help you out. Go out have some meet some and you never know might be just round the corner.