I started crossdressing when I was 5 years old. I hardly knew much about right and wrong. I knew even less about crossdressing. I grew up pre-internet which definitely limited my information about crossdressing. I went through the normal periods of guilt, purging, and feeling different.
In 2006 something very bad happened to me. I have owned my own business since the early 80's. I know that makes me pretty old, but that's life. In 2006 I lost most of what I had worked for so many years. In one 24 hour period I was wiped out. I was depressed, suicidal, and generally felt like I had done 14 rounds with Ali and this was the final round coming up. I struggled for 2 years feeling terrible inside. I felt like a complete failure. I was depressed and couldn’t beat it.
Then last year I told my wife about my crossdressing. That was the hardest thing to do. Needless to say it didn't go well. We separated for the 8th time several months later. She blames the crossdressing on the separation, but it was only 10% of the problem. She couldn't see the other 90% as anything wrong.
So this is where it gets interesting. A year ago now she moved out and I finally worked up the courage to come out of the closet. I joined Tri-Ess here in Denver. Had a makeover with Phyllis and then went to eat dinner at a restaurant near my house with another crossdresser. That's when it happened. I found my backbone and started snapping out of my 2 year depression. I continued to work up the courage to go places and over time, I was able to go almost anywhere that I wanted to go. See I realized that if I can walk out that door dressed, then I can do anything. I had found my way by simply accepting myself!
Since then I have been out of the house probably 100 times. I have eaten dinner in Vail, Co dressed. I have taken a long drive in Colorado to see the Aspen Tree color change. I have gone to a casino with another crossdresser. I have seen a lot of good movies and bad ones. I have done almost all of my grocery shopping as Michelle. I have regained half of my business because I am no longer scared to fail. I learned that the courage necessary to walk out the door dressed was the same courage needed for me to recover my business.
I received a very badly needed benefit. Has one else ever found their way in life after coming to terms with their crossdressing?