For me realizing this was the last piece of the puzzle... the answer I was seeking that led to being "whole" as I put it so often. Once I understood this key point, reviewing half a lifetime of confusion, I knew my "need" to understand the reasons why were over. The result was peace of mind.
Gabrielle's "story" is one of the most joyful expressions of "coming to terms" and "living life" I have ever read, and it is a splendid example for others, that whatever one's goals are, despite formidible barriers, it is possible.
And Kate, I doubt that your understanding is so deep and profound that it eludes understanding here. I do beleve there is a "loss in translation" that I can not easily work with, so I will avoid further comment for now, as my way of expressing myself in words is at times abstruse.<smile>I will follow your progress.
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