Girlhood experience you wished you had

[IwishIwasTracy]

I was just wondering what girlhood experience you wish you would of had. For me it would have been getting my first bra. I was very envious when my sister got her first bra. The second one is kind of a fun one. I like it when someone playfully snaps my bra strap. I missed having that happen to me as a young girl.

Let's hear some others.

Tracy

[happygirl]

A slumber party. I remember my sisters and there girlfriends playing, talking and just bonding all night

[Nicole Erin]

A slumber party. I remember my sisters and there girlfriends playing, talking and just bonding all night

would be fun, I remember when the girls did that and it was "no boys allowed" that used to bother me...

[Ricochet]

A slumber party. I remember my sisters and there girlfriends playing, talking and just bonding all night

Same here. I would have liked the intimate bonding that girls do.

I've had one male friend (a co-worker) in my lifetime that I ever felt comfortable enough to have discussions of an intimate nature. These discussions usually centered around the women we were involved with in the past or present. He is the only man I ever expressed my inner feelings to. I have never been able to do it with my brothers or best male friends. As far as I know, this is pretty common with most men. I suppose we see it as a weakness.

So, yes, I would have liked the bonding that girls are, fortunately, able to do in their relationships.

Take care...

[SweetCaroline]

Definitely getting to wear a prom dress. Not to big on actually going to the prom, I just wanted to wear the dresses.

In a way, I did get to do just that 20 years later when I was asked to be a model in a fashion show at the 2008 First Event conference outside Boston, so one fantasy did come true (among many others).

[suchacutie]

I can't tell you how many times my wife has said, "that's the kind of thing you learn growing up as a girl!".

Ok so we learn about makeup and we cover ourselves in the outward trappings of being a woman and even learn voice control, but all of that is like joining a chorus and singing in a language you don't know. You can learn the pronunciation but you still don't know what it all means.

We all never learned how girls think, how they are taught to act, and what they internalize in this process! That's what I miss so much: I want to know what it's like to be a girl from the inside out. Learning it now is one heck of a learning curve, if it can be done at all!

tina

[Malori Cross]

I can't tell you how many times my wife has said, "that's the kind of thing you learn growing up as a girl!".

Ok so we learn about makeup and we cover ourselves in the outward trappings of being a woman and even learn voice control, but all of that is like joining a chorus and singing in a language you don't know. You can learn the pronunciation but you still don't know what it all means.

We all never learned how girls think, how they are taught to act, and what they internalize in this process! That's what I miss so much: I want to know what it's like to be a girl from the inside out. Learning it now is one heck of a learning curve, if it can be done at all!

tina

Spot on--I'd like the whole she-bang (pardon the pun!), but I've also often thought how exciting it would feel to put on a bra for the first time. Then again, I don't think I'd want to experience the whole menstrual thing.

[Toni_Lynn]

Oh my -- this is a great question! Thank you!

Yes -- there are all those great experiences -- first bra, that special dress, first makeup experiences --- but as I look back at life -- guess what -- I did experience them. The day I bought my first training bra will forever be indelibly etched on my mind as the single greatest day of teenage years. That special dress -- well -- my first dress WAS very special -- cause it was mine and it was a dress, not did not belong to someone else. My first experimentation with makeup -- just like every other girl! Oh - and i did read 16 and Tiger Beat magazine for all stuff on my faves like The Monkees etc -- and Seventeen for all the fashion news. I sat with teh Sears, Penney's and Wards catalogs and dreamed just like any other girl. Oh there are other expriences far too personal to mention -- such as the first time I bought a ceratin item from that little vending machine in the girls restroom - -what a rite of passage. Yes -- I experienced so much that every girl does -- and non-CDing boys don't.

However -- the missing component is the fact that these were all done alone. I wished that I had been made to feel as special as my sister did on those occasions. Yes, they were all special for me to, but the specialness was not shared. It was a lonely type of specialness, known only to me. It brought happiness and satisfaction, but I only knew of it.

My happiest days arer those when I peddled my bike out to the local shopping centre, went in Murphy's Mart and plunked down my allowance on a new bra and panties and a copy of Seventeen, and then headed to a local lake where I sat on the shore under a tree reading my magazine after putting on my new undies.

It was wonderful, and I wouldn't trade it for the life of any of the boys that I saw playing football or little league baseball etc.

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

[lisalove]

When my boobs started to show. Thats the first sign of womanhood. I remember getting my first bra, so that doesn't count lol.
Also the thrill of going from boring cotton little girl panties to sexy women's silky bikini panties. in a way I did get to go from boring boys underwear to sexy panties, but it's not the same.

[Persephone]

I can't tell you how many times my wife has said, "that's the kind of thing you learn growing up as a girl!".

Ok so we learn about makeup and we cover ourselves in the outward trappings of being a woman and even learn voice control, but all of that is like joining a chorus and singing in a language you don't know. You can learn the pronunciation but you still don't know what it all means.

We all never learned how girls think, how they are taught to act, and what they internalize in this process! That's what I miss so much: I want to know what it's like to be a girl from the inside out. Learning it now is one heck of a learning curve, if it can be done at all!

tina

[Sarah Doepner]

First would have to be being part of a close relationship with other females, be they young or old. I would have liked being able to talk about feelings and expectations instead of putting up false fronts and hiding behind my words. I doubt I have ever been able to communicate with another man or a woman with any kind of intimacy.

Second would be getting the kind of treatment on special days where someone would help me get my hair done, pick out colors and do my nails, help me pick out and then put on that special dress. You know, just generally be fussed over and made to feel like someone's princess.

[Intertwined]

a slumber party. I remember my sisters and there girlfriends playing, talking and just bonding all night

d i t t o !

[Melanie R]

At age 17 my girlfriend loved to dress me in her clothes. We could wear the same size including heels. This occured the many times her parents were out of town leaving her alone at home. I did have a best male friend who knew about Melanie and had been with me when I was fully dressed. I had talked about always wanting to go to a prom as Melanie. John asked if Melanie would go with him to his senior prom. Linda, my girl friend, said that I could wear her beautiful long pink prom dress. I chickened out and did not take him up on his invitation. I can still fantasize how great that would have been wearing that dress and dancing with John in those 4 inch pink pumps.

[Persephone]

I was just wondering what girlhood experience you wish you would of had. For me it would have been getting my first bra. I was very envious when my sister got her first bra. The second one is kind of a fun one. I like it when someone playfully snaps my bra strap. I missed having that happen to me as a young girl.

Let's hear some others.

Tracy

Oh, gosh, Tracy, I wish I'd had it all! I missed getting the girly presents, having the girl friends, I really, really dispised being excluded from the "girl's side" of the playground and from "home economics" classes in middle school (in my day, boys weren't even allowed near those classrooms).

I missed wearing dresses to elementary school and skirts to middle & high school (again, in my day, girls were required to wear skirts to school).

I missed my first bra and my first period (doesn't sound like much fun, but it is part of being a girl).

And although pretty much of a committed male heterosexual now, I would have loved to know/understand what it was like to go riding in cars with boys. Really! I long to know what it was like to go fishing for a boy, to get him to call, to go out on a date, to wear that special dress to the prom.

[Stacye Rose]

I'd have to say the one experience I would have liked would have been getting my first pair of high heels to wear with "that special dress". Such a grown up feeling for a young teenage girl to have.

[Carrie R]

I would've just been happy to have girl friends, I've always felt left out...

[Bobbi Em]

I missed the chance to be a ****. A tease. A tramp. The power of being in a class when the desks were circled and being able to flash a boy across the room to the point of where he'd have to excuse himself to go to the john for five minutes. Boys are sooo easy to manipulate.

My bad...

Bobbi

[Kate Simmons]

Hmm--I was a tomboy, so if anyone ever snapped my bra, I would have smacked them right in the kisser.

[daviolin]

I'd have to say the one experience I would have liked would have been getting my first pair of high heels to wear with "that special dress". Such a grown up feeling for a young teenage girl to have.

That is such a cool young girl experince. I was in a shoe store the other day and a young girl and her mother came in to purchace her first pair of high heel shoes. They were both having so much fun. She picked the cutest peap toe black pumps. I checked after they left, if they had them in my size. They didn't Boo HooDaviolin

[SarahPerth]

going to the first dance on a Friday night in Grade 7 (year we turned 12) would have been special.

[Jan W]

Fun question, I would have loved to experience:-

Party dresses, school dresses, circle skirts, box pleated skirts and a wedding dress. (although by then I would be a woman not a young girl)

[Diane Smith]

First trip to the salon for a "grown-up" hairstyle and maybe a professional makeup application would have been fun ...

- Diane

[linnea]

Oh, gosh, Tracy, I wish I'd had it all! I missed getting the girly presents, having the girl friends, I really, really dispised being excluded from the "girl's side" of the playground and from "home economics" classes in middle school (in my day, boys weren't even allowed near those classrooms).

I missed wearing dresses to elementary school and skirts to middle & high school (again, in my day, girls were required to wear skirts to school).

I missed my first bra and my first period (doesn't sound like much fun, but it is part of being a girl).

And although pretty much of a committed male heterosexual now, I would have loved to know/understand what it was like to go riding in cars with boys. Really! I long to know what it was like to go fishing for a boy, to get him to call, to go out on a date, to wear that special dress to the prom.

Wow! Me too!

[shayleetv]

My sister was a cheerleader at the University. How I envied her as I sometimes sat in the stands and watched. That short skirt and the colored panties that matched. How I wished that was me out there instead of my sister.

[HeatherScott]

I always felt rejected when mum took me with her to the hairdressers where she sat and had rollers put in and I never ! Oh how I hoped I could get that done. It was great to sit in the company of so many women for so long. Mum could never understand why I never got bored ! I used to dream that the stylist would grab me and sit me on the seat and have my hair curled.... but it never happened...

Life can be so cruel...