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    Married to SO Rufusrabbit Rebeccarabbit's Avatar
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    Question ? Re Friendships

    Just interested ?
    Do you have real time CD/TS/TG friends? Where you meet up for dressing or coffee and chats. Does anyone go to a local group? Or do you solely use web based forums?. Do any of your real life friends know that you dress?
    The reason I ask is that as a newly married couple both my SO would like to meet people with similar interests as us
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    yes I do.... we meet for lunch every so often .
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    Yes.
    I am close to many on this forum.
    Some I meet quite regularly...and I consider them my deaest friends.

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    Yes, I have several CD friends who I have met on this site and other places with whom I meet up for a night or day in the city. It takes a lot of work to find ones that are compatible, complimentary and have similar dressing styles as you, and who want to go out. If you are wanting to do things with your wife, local support groups would probably be a great way to meet people and to network to find those few or many who could fit what you are looking for. Good luck, it is more than worth the effort.

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    Myself and Ruth would dearly like to make some friends local to us that are also familiar to our situation. To date we have a few friends on Facebook but these are to far away to meet regularly.......we don't know where to start :/
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    None of my drab-world friends know about Eryn and I'm trying to keep it that way. Too many complications.

    I do have CD friends and we get together for a lot of activities, some of which end up as threads on the forum. I also belong to a CD group that gets together once a month. We have great fun!
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    Yup, sometimes I get together with CDing friends either en femme or en homme. Neat being able to do that.
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    Strangely enough, in my regular world I really haven't made any friends that I get together with regularly. But Sue's world is very socially oriented. I belong to a Tri-Ess group and my best friends are among their members. I periodically visit two other groups and have friends there also.

    I do enjoy meeting the members from here when they are in town. Each time has been a great get-together. I just met a long term member here last weekend and i had a truly wonderful time. There can be some trepidations about meeting people that you know on-line only, but just start off in a public place and let your comfort level settle in after that.

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    Do you have real time CD/TS/TG friends?
    Yes

    Where you meet up for dressing or coffee and chats.
    Almost anywhere. It depends on who I'm meeting. Some are more comfortable in traditional TG friendly places while others are comfortable in mainstream places. I prefer mainstream places since there are more choices and I like them a better.

    Does anyone go to a local group?
    Yes. The River City Gems. Actually, I'm on the board of directors, thus very active in the group.

    Or do you solely use web based forums?
    No

    Do any of your real life friends know that you dress?
    If you are referring to friends in my male life then no. I have a number of friends who know, but they only know me as a woman. I have way more friends as a woman than as a man. Make sense since I'm 3/4 time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rebeccarabbit View Post
    Just interested ?
    Do you have real time CD/TS/TG friends? Where you meet up for dressing or coffee and chats. Does anyone go to a local group? Or do you solely use web based forums?. Do any of your real life friends know that you dress?
    The reason I ask is that as a newly married couple both my SO would like to meet people with similar interests as us
    Hi Rebecca,

    You are not that far from Brighton where there is a fairly active group called The Clare Project.

    There is an informal drop-in every Tuesday although most are during the afternoon which may be too early if one or both of you is at work.

    On the first Tuesday of each month, the meeting is later to allow people to go after work and some of them then go on to a local restaurant around 7pm

    I won't be at next Tuesday's meeting as I am working late that day, but I would encourage you to go and try it out. You can get a number 7 bus from Brighton Station, getting off at St James Street. Dorset Gardens is the 2nd on your left as you go up the hill. Although we meet in a church, there is no religion in the meetings.

    As you probably remember, I was outed in the local press a couple of years ago so all my friends and neighbours know I am TS.
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    I belong to several local support groups. I have made a lot of friends, and as an added bonus you get plugged into The Local Scene, meeting many others. Although there are numerous members of this Forum around my area, I don't believe I've ever made an initial contact with one. There are three or four that I previously knew from Various Groups and activities, but I can't count them. Guess I ought to make an effort, and meet some of you people.

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    Do you have real time CD/TS/TG friends? - No but I'm looking for one or a few to hang out with, do things together & have fun outside & in.

    Or do you solely use web based forums? - Yea. many web friends to chat with.

    Do any of your real life friends know that you dress?
    - Yea, 2 GG friends know I'm M2F transgendered lez. One is 28 y/o, accepting & intrigued. The other is 33, totally accepting, thinks I'm a hottie & wants to hang out together as girl friends.

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    Yes, I meet up with my CD friends about once or twice a month for a GNO.

    Two of my sons know about my cding. My best friend from High School and his wife, also know.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rebeccarabbit View Post
    Do you have real time CD/TS/TG friends? Where you meet up for dressing or coffee and chats. Does anyone go to a local group? Or do you solely use web based forums?. Do any of your real life friends know that you dress?
    I don't have any CD friends. I'd think I'd like some, but I'm a big chicken. I used to go to Neutral Corner but don't anymore. Now I just converse on the web. I don't think any of my "regular" friends know, but I think many suspect. I don't care. LOL!

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    The only CD friends I have are here on the forum. I would like some that I can go out with and chat with about similar topics, but it has not happened yet. In terms of where I would like to meet them I really dont have a preference, probably whatever they are comfortable with. Like AmandaM I have been to the Neutral Corner meetings here in San Diego. I have only been to one since its hard to work it into my work schedule and I have only recently come out of the closet. I have many friends as well as my family that know I dress and are ok with it, but only a handful have seen me or a picture of me while dressed. It has been a huge help coming out to them and feeling ok with myself.

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    I actually have quite a few TG friends. I run a social group in New Hampshire that I go to twice a month and then I try to get down to Boston at least once a month. Other than going to the clubs we go shopping, out to lunch, and just about anywhere else you can think of. My two best friends know about Sally. One I've known for over 20 years and is very accepting. The other is the first other t-girl I ever met and we became fast friends. About half of my family currently knows too.

    There must be some social or support groups near you. You'd be surprised how many of us are out there........
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    Everyone that knows me knows how I live! None are comfortable enough to be seen with me! I guess the real question is; do I have friends!! Hugs!
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    I guess friends are very impotant. Up until now in life I have only posted on forums. With Ruth now, we so want to meet other people and couples that share our interests.
    I'm a Surveyor so my job is very lone ...........sure I meet interesting people, but so need to talk to people that are like me.
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    Hi,

    I do have a good number of friends who are dresser's though they are 1800 miles away they live in Austraila , i dont have that many here in New Zealand because they are some 2,1 / 2 hours away. one or two are trans though same detail,

    while i was over in Austraila i did meet up with quite a few 6 weeks ago. while bunny hopping around O Z.

    Most of my friends are women & with in the groups im in some 1000 in our membership. of those some really neat to work with & enjoy thier commany.

    I allso do have some lovely friends iv got to know from being on our forums here included, will we ever meet i have no idear, maybe one day.

    ...noeleena...

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    I have a few close friends I've met through our Tri-Ess group.
    A couple of them I get together with fairly regularly and go out shopping, dining, movies and such. My wife is always a part of our activities and I'd have it no other way.
    We've yet to go golfing....hint, hint Becky....or things like that, but who knows what the future brings.
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    Yes I do, I don't do it often enough though. I also meet my friends in drab and also have lunch or dinner.

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    I'm pretty much a hermit, in both male and female mode. Not that I don't like people, just don't get out much. And I am totally in the closet to all others, besides the wife.
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    Do you have real time CD/TS/TG friends? yes
    Where you meet up for dressing or coffee and chats. Does anyone go to a local group? Both, and I never get to see them enough and I'd like to cultivate more
    Do any of your real life friends know that you dress? A few do know. Some are accepting. Some aren't and don't want to know.

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    I have a couple of good friends but they know nothing of my cding i think ? lol .My x gf is the only person that i will talk to about my lifestyle and it is only once in a while (we are still good friends) .The last time i dressed in front of her was over 2 yrs ago
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    What is normal anyway? Rianna Humble's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sally24 View Post
    There must be some social or support groups near you. You'd be surprised how many of us are out there........
    It is quite surprising how few CD/TG/TS support groups there are in the South of England. I know people who drive for 2 hours or more to get to their "nearest" support group which is the one I mentioned in Brighton. Now to someone in the good ol' US of A, 2 to 3 hours drive might not seem much, but in England when you have to do it after work and want to arrive before 7 pm it is a big deal.
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