Gee! This makes me kinda sad, Bruce."...I'm also of the younger generation and the guys still behave chivalrously on occasion, though less than the older guys.
No way am I going to acknowledge anything, much less thank them."
I think you maybe misread the intentions of the acts of politeness.
If, as you say, you know that you're being read as a female, then you have to kinda expect that men will defer to you occassionally. There is absolutely no intention to demean or embarrass you. It's just the way men are, almost an instinctive thing, a cultural effect of having been raised correctly.
Do you really think that there should be a war between the sexes (you know ... genders), and you are a fifth columninst, like it says in your signature line?
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