From your own perspective, do YOU think you really "pass" when you go out there all dolled up and mingle? Do you really care? Some seem to have a needed sense of urgency to do this but does it really work or do you think others know who we really are but just don't say anything for the most part?
A good GG friend and I have an off and on ongoing discussion about this. She tells me that no matter how hard a CD tries to "pass" she can tell who and what they are. For one thing she says there is just something intrinsic missing that a woman has that CD's do not plus the added fact that she used to be married to a CD, so she is familiar with the attempts at presentation, etc. I told her I can tell because of who I am, in other words it takes one to know one.
What about those who are not so familiar with the "inner sanctum" of CDing though? Can they tell and are they really fooled, despite not saying anything? I was never really sure. This is why early on, I decided to drop any kind of "act" and just be myself out there since I was doing this mostly for myself and no one else anyway. People seemed to relate to that much better and I seemed to get more respect.
So, do we really "pass" out there and does it really matter that much? I suppose it would mostly depend on what we are trying to accomplish to begin with.