My wife tolerates my crossdressing as it isn't 'in her face' and she can ignore the pantyhose,etc. I was leaving for my work (self employed) and I had my camera bag over my shoulder as my hands were full and, well, that is how larger cameras are transported. She observed from the second floor me with said black camera bag over my shoulder and asked-not sarcastically or hostile-is that a purse? I explained to her what it clearly was, but it hurts to get this sort of jab. I know what her implication was. Dressed outwardly in drab, I hardly would be go out in public with a ladies handbag-don't even own one-not my trigger- draped over my work clothes. maybe this is just a manifestation of frustration? do any of you experience similar 'got yous' ?