Dear Girls and Boys,
Of late my transgenderness has been in growth mode. Going from strength to strength.
My feelings are becoming confusing regarding my future direction.
I think my question applies to both crossdressing and or transitioning.
Most of us acknowledge our behaviour is not 'curable'.
Do we have to behave this way or do we want to?
I like my feminine self and do not want to give her up. (even if I could)
How do others feel about this?
Jan
I don't think I have much choice so don't worry about it. I dress because I have to and I am happiest when I am dressed.
It takes a real man to wear a dress.
I feel the same,I enjoy dressing when I can and feel unable to give up my femme self.It now feels like it there is no choice because i am just coming to accept that this is who I am and if I can get to that acceptance level I dont want to back pedal and become suppressed again.I've given up the idea of purging (at least) and that gives me better choices I think
Pattie
I'm just finding myself and I definitely want this!
I have to breath to live but I don't have to dress to do so. Although I feel a certain need to express myself through my dressing, for me personally, since I am a heterosexual crossdresser with no intention of ever transitioning, I would still be able to live without crossdressing. I might be more difficult to live with but somehow I'd probably survive. I also hope that I never have to make a choice to give it up.
I have discovered a very important part of my personality and there is NO WAY i'm giving her up. My male and female personas will just have to learn to get along with each other!!!!
I do this because I want to, not because I have to. It can be a confusing issue and everyone must handle it in their own way. As for transitioning, not really interested in that as I like my male self way too much for that.
I agree, I do not want to transition nor give up my male working parts. I kinda like mr happy, little willie, or whatever you want to call it. However I wouldn't mind having a size 38c breasts.Originally Posted by Miranda09
I have discovered a very important part of my personality and there is NO WAY i'm giving her up. My male and female personas will just have to learn to get along with each other!!!!
I do this because I want to, not because I have to. It can be a confusing issue and everyone must handle it in their own way. As for transitioning, not really interested in that as I like my male self way too much for that.
i like what Tasha said...I am much happier when i take the time and action to be me...
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For me it is a matter of need and not want. I have this need to express my feminine side and this is a feeling that is always with me. I cannot stop dressing any more than I could not stop breathing and continue to be alive. Being a cd is not something that I chose to be but rather it chose me even before I was born. I would not want to stop being a cd even if I could. It is just the way that I am and there is no way that it is ever going to change.
I can say with absolute certainty that I have no choice in the matter. But it's easier to do something that you have to do if you think you also want it. I guess thats where acceptance comes from; you come to realize fighting it will grind you down, but with an open mind, the alternative isn't all bad.
But it's rightly all the same, have vs want. Sort of a glass half empty or half fullBut I can say if you feel trapped, you're your own warden.
I don't have to do this. I have kept it closeted, even from myself, for long periods, especially when my wife went through her freak out phase. I just put it away and tried not to think about it.
I don't need this in order to live a decent life. But, I do need this if I am to be who I am. I'm blessed in that I have an ability to compartmentalize facets of myself. It can make things easier if needs be. But, it does, and will come out if kept bottled up for too long.
Tia
Hi Jan,
I firmly believe that you can't help the way you feel, but you can control your voluntary actions (to a certain extent). I cannot stop the urge to CD any more than I can stop feeling hungry if I miss a meal, but I can stop the physical act of dressing....albeit to the extreme detriment of my mental health
Just my
Tash
Jan,
It is really timely as I have been really struggling with what I want to do from here on and where and how far I want to take my femme side. I want to believe there is a crest to where I will finally realize this is it but not at this point. Transition or partially transition.
I have to set up an appointment to see a therapst and get help with where I am going.
Teri
I agree with 99% of what Miranda saidI'd only disagree with the need thing. I don't know that I'll always do this, but at this time in my life, I NEED to do this!
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC] x o x o x o Samantha Girl!!! * remember girls, sexiness is a state of mind!!!
I wear what I want to. The clothes themselves don't change my thinking or how I view myself. In my mind I am always the same person, and amazingly it is not the person who looks back at me in the mirror. I hate that
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“Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.” - Fred Rogers,
I know I want to dress, but do I really need to? Probably not, but I can tell everyone this; When I don't get the chance to dress for longer periods of time I get cranky, short tempered and obsessive about things that normally wouldn't bother me. Why is that?
I could live the rest of my life without ever dressing again, but I would be willing to guess that the quality of life would be lower and the stress involved would be higher, and the time available would be less because of that stress.
Sarah
Being transgender isn't a lifestyle choice. How you deal with it is.
I just want to.
As Lorileah saidSidebar - I've often thought Tasha and Miranda look a lot alike. Both posted one after the other above. They could be cousins.
Mary
How about a 'good news, bad news' presentation on this?
From where I am:
Bad News: I crossdress because I can't stop.
Good News: I now have a balance in my life I never knew before.
The fact is, even the people who don't know what my private 'hobby' is can see that I'm doing better (as a person) than they've ever seen me do before. I've had it described as "a beautiful blend, a balance of male and female energies...". This was in front of about 40 to 50 people, most of whom were strangers. It was rather a mixed moment, but well worth it.
I have to add to my response.
This is not something I would willingly give up. If for some I reason I absolutely had to - okay - then once the balance of things were changed I'd be back, and a lot happier for it. I would not want to lose either personna, because I love having the choice.
i love to dress im glad i have a suportive wife ,but if it had to stop,i could it would be like losing a leg or any thing that was really important,sooner or later i would adjust to the loss..........
My feminine side is me... I'm just a Lisa.
Der Transsexuellaußenseiter
The lovers have flown...
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Nice!
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC] x o x o x o Samantha Girl!!! * remember girls, sexiness is a state of mind!!!
I dress because it makes me feel good when I do. I wear make-up because I feel pretty/sexy. I take care of my legs and feet because I love feeling pampered.
All of those things don't define me, but they do give me a better harmony with women and with the world. My GG friends all think I am so in touch with things that a normal guy wouldn't even contemplate! I like that about me. If I did stop dressing and wearing make-up, I would still be the same person because I was already in touch with my femme self way before I even realized I was a C/D.
So if you want to stop for whatever reason, that's fine. Just remember you can hide everything from everybody, but you can NEVER hide who you are from yourself...
I dress because I want to but then again.........
Samantha K
It's so hard being me
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Even told the golden daffodil.
At last my hearts an open door,
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See Sams pics at;
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[SIZE="4"]I used to need to dress, but now every once in a while I like to hang my guy clothes on my body it doesn't change me[/SIZE]
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