Yikes--how many of us have had an argument with our significant others when our private live come up as a back hand slap! I realize that this is a lot to dump on our wives, girlfriend, lovers but god it hurts when we have been so honest and you SO or GF or BF throws this in your facs in an argument. We all start with the most honest and painfull admission of being a cd and that lasts about 6 months till you get into a major arguement and suddenly your trashed with a couple of cold, painfull words. For me it was my own doing in that I explained how much I like to dress to my girlfriend and I can only guess that she did not understand my desires. As in any relationship, words are exchanged. It hurts sooo much when your so honest and it is accepted but then used against you. sorry feeling blue