The suspense of going out in public

[dawnmarrie1961]

Dylen,

Old Tymers? We prefer the word vintage or matured individuals. Or just plain old farts.
I remember the song.



"I remember when i was a girl
Our house caught on fire
And i'll never forget the look on my father's face
As he gathered me in his arms
And raced to the burning building out on the pavement
And i stood there shivering
And watched the whole world go up in flames
And when it was all over
I said to myself
Is that all there is to a fire?
Is that all there is?

Is that all there is?
If that's all there is, my friends, then let's keep dancing
Let's break out the booze and have a ball
If that's all there is

And when i was twelve years old
My daddy took me to the circus
The greatest show on earth
And there were clowns
And elephants
Dancing bears,
And a beautiful lady in pink tights flew high above our heads
And as i sat there watching
I had the feeling that something was missing
I don't know what
But when it was all over
I said to myself
Is that all there is to the circus?

Is that all there is?
If that's all there is, my friends, then let's keep dancing
Let's break out the booze and have a ball
If that's all there is

And then i fell in love
With the most wonderful boy in the world
We'd take long walks down by the river
Or just sit for hours gazing into each other's eyes
We were so very much in love
And then one day
He went away
And i'd thought i'd die
But i didn't
And when i didn't
I said to myself
Is that all there is to love ?

Is that all there is?
If that's all there is, my friends, then let's keep-

I know what you must be saying to yourselves
If that's the way she feels about it
Then why doesn't she just end it all?
Oh no. not me. i'm not ready for that final disappointment
Cause i know just as well as i'm standing here talking to you
That when that final moment comes
And i'm breathing my last breath
I know what i'll be saying to myself
Is that all there is?

Is that all there is?
If that's all there is, my friends, then let's keep dancing
Let's break out the booze and have a ball
If that's all there is"

but... i can't dance.

and this is all there is
and ever will be...
... an existence
without life.

"Is That All There Is?" written by Jerry Leiber (lyrics) and Mike Stoller (music). The song was made famous in a recording by Peggy


As for the thrill being gone? All I can say in answer to that is " You ain't seen nothing yet!!!"
Your are in for a lot of firsts. Than amazing thing is that every day that passes brings something new and amazing that you never expected. That is the wonderment of life. Enjoy it!

[Megan70]

Don't forget to bring adequate identification and a cell phone just in case.

.....

and a male "bail out " bag for beginners for emergency quick change back to with bum around male clothes , socks and shoes, baby oil and cleanex for temporary quick makeup remover. All starter CDs venturing public should carry this in the back seat ubtil they feel confident they don't need it.

[CharleneT]

You may find it easier to join a local Tri-Ess group and go out with them. I will mention that a group of CD's tends to get read pretty quick, but there is safety and confidence in numbers. Especially the later - more experienced ladies can help you feel ok about how it is going. Might try just a walk in a residential neighborhood. The most important thing is to feel relaxed, know you'll be fine and enjoy yourself.

[CD Susan]

What an interesting thread this is! I have read every post in this thread and feel compelled to add my worth. I started going out dressed en femme in public just 15 months ago even though I have been a cd for the past 50 or so years! I wasted the most of my life by hiding in the closet and I deeply regret doing that. Since I left that comfort of the closet I have become a completely different person. I routinely go out dressed any place I want to and enjoy every minute of it. Nobody has ever said anything negative to me while I have been out dressed and I have to think that why was I so afraid to go out dressed for all those years? I am so glad that I made the leap to going out and will never regret doing this. My only regret is that I cid not do this many years ago when I was still young. I am making up for lost time now and will be going out again for yet another Susan adventure tomorrro.

[Marcia Blue]

[SIZE="2"]My first time out was in the daylight. Even if you just drive around that would be my recommendation. No one bothered me or seemed to care.[/SIZE]

[Renee Demarea]

What ever makes sense to you night or day,its a first step besides if you dont you will never know. Go For It...........

[jeanine38]

For my first and only time out I went to a gay-friendly coffee shop. I was scared to death getting out of the car and walking in.

No one batted an eye. It was a blast and I very quickly relaxed and enjoyed my coffee and book just like everyone else. I walked out and around the block with new confidence.