I have been living with an accepting women for 10 yrs. now, and although I am able to dress when i please, I find that I really dont do it as much as I would like to. The reason for this is because she relates my dressing with wanting to be intimate all the time, and that is just not the case with me. Sure I do feel great excitement when i am dressed at home, but a lot of the time I just want to be dressed, and go about my normal day, (relaxing, reading, watching tv, doing household chores, etc.). I have tried to explain to her that my need to dress goes beyond the sexual gratification, and that I just feel more like myself in womens things. This aspect of my dressing she is having a problem with. She has asked me if I think I should have been born female, and I have told her truthfully that I do feel that way. (I feel I am probably classified more as TG than CD). Although I am straight, it confuses her to no end. I have guided her to sites that try to explain this to SO's better than I seem to be able to do.
This is another reason I am so happy that I can finally be myself when I visit my mother. (see my earlier post, "coming out to mother"), The sexual aspect is not there to get in the way. I can just be myself around my mother, and I feel so percetly comfortable with her.
I just wonder if others here experience anything similar to this with their SO's? I look forward to your replies....MIchelle