Sometimes the idea of my hubby's CDing confuses me.
And I wonder how he can possibly be attracted to me since I am more tomboy than girly-girl. The stuff he buys to wear is girly-girl.
Is tomboyish-ness less threatening to a CD'er?
Are CDer's clothing choices unrelated to what the CDer would like their SO's style to be?
I think that it will be a mixture of reasons why a Cder picks the type of clothes that they do . some will wear what they fantasize the ideal woman would be wearing yet would hate for their wife's to go out wearing it, some will wear what they would like to see their wife's wearing, and some will wear the type of clothes that they think suit them and feel happy in .
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]Joanne
I'm very happily un-married. I buy clothes which I like and which I hope suit me. I'm often complimented about my dress sense.
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I wear what I think is age appropriate and looks good on me. Unless it is subconscious, I'm not projecting or wishing my style onto someone else including a SO.
[SIZE="2"]I like tomboyish-ness! I don’t think it’s threatening at all*. In my case, clothing choices are related to what I would like to see women wear, but I would not project that image onto my SO. If I loved someone, I wouldn’t care what they wore…Originally Posted by Daphne7
*Check out “Jack” in the film “Pitch Black.”[/SIZE]
What I buy, is what I want to wear. Sometimes my taste and my SO taste meet, but it's not always the case. Neither one of us accepts whatever the other wants to wear. So far there hasn't been a time where we just couldn't stand the cloths the other one was wearing and I don't think its going to happen, as we still have rather close taste in cloths.
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My partner has a certain style, she presents as a very elegant Gothic lady with long skirts and parasols. Now I know that she finds Gothic ladies attractive, and I also find the style very pretty, but we both know that that style totally isn't me. She also like Polka Dots patterns and I HATE Polka dots.
For me my dressing style is an extension of my personality. I'm very optimistic and bright person. I'm also of the Tom Boy variety like yourself. I however like wearing dresses, but they never go past my knees. I find long skirts too constricting since I like to jump around a lot and short skirts to hard to move in elegantly. I wear a lot of bright and happy colours, I also make a lot of accessories which I wear. So the Gothic style is not me by a long shot.
It worried me for awhile that perhaps I didn't dress they way that she likes best. I did try for awhile to goth myself up a little... It didn't work well. I wilt if I wear lots of dark colours though, it makes me feel gloomy. Gloomy me, isn't a sexy me. Being attractive is all about confidence. It was silly of myself to try and change who I was to please my partner. I feel far more confident in my choice of clothing and that's what matters to my partner. I realised at the end of the day it didn't matter if I wore my style, as she still rushes me off the the bedroom at any given opportunity. I'm obviously on the right track.
That being said, I do dress in one style that my partner likes and has asked me too. Silky night dresses.
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Oh yeah, guilty as charged.
[SIZE=2]I used to enjoy wearing many of my wife's clothes (those I could get into), from way before I told her about me. In 40 years, she's put on a little weight (so have I, but not as much) and paradoxically, now that more of her clothes fit me, they have become a little too conservative for my tastes. I might wear a few of her outfits if I was out in public (I'm not, because she's anti-CD), but I still prefer to dress younger and sexier, and if I'm honest, I wish she would too. In my closet, however, I want way-out sexy, bordering on bondage too![/SIZE]
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I don't think it's necessarily what you want your SO to wear, as much as it is what the female archetype part of the personality wears.
Of course, what the dresser personally finds most attractive is what she's gonna wear to feel attractive.
My taste and my Dear Wife's taste are quite alike in most clothing choices. I do like dresses more than she does, but I find that like others I try to dress age appropiate. I hope one day to venture out and I do try to dress like the lady I wish to be. I do know that Dear Wife has "accidentally" put some of my tops in the drier and guess what? She wears them now. Guess I'll have to buy more.
I've always liked the style of clothes my wife wears. She tends to wear more pants than skirts nowadays so I now own more skirts. Luckily we're the same size except shoes, my heels are higher than hers.
I've often bought her clothes,nightgowns & jewelery, which she's always liked. I've actually just bought what I'd wear myself, so we're very much in tune.
The only thing I love which she doesn't are satin shirts. I'd love her to borrow my clothes,it would be a thrill to see out wearing MY things.
Given there are many reasons why we crossdress, there is not a single answer for your question. You already received answers were girls just have their own style without any relation with SOs styles.
In my case, crossdressing is a fetish kind of thing (at least at this point). Therefore I use more sexy clothing. For me these are clothes I would love my SO using. It does not mean I love her less because she doesn't but I would really like to see her in more sexy clothes, high heels, etc.
My 2 cents.
My purchases don't reflect what I would want my wife to wear, but that is more of a sizing problem than anything - I see stuff all the time in her favorite stores that I would like to wear, but their sizes stop well short of what I would need. Most of the clothes stop at about size 12, shoes at size 10 and it's very frustrating. I'd lke to get some mini skirts, but the only ones I find are in the junior's section. Circumstances will permit me to shop online soon, and have purchases shipped to my home, so that should be changing!!
Heck yes I do. I get so sick and tired seeing her is those darn cotton pj's. The only time i see her in anything frilly fem is on vacation maybe once a year, and when she does wear something sexy it is with such a pained look on her face it is not worth it to me. it just plain sucks. Sorry for the rant but that's the way i feel.--michille
michille
I dress for myself, not how I want my wife to dress. I do wish she would dress a little nicer. I'm a big fan of "What not to Wear" and my wife wears clothes that don't fit well. I've gone with her to the store to help her pick out clothes and she says she loves what I pick out for her, then she doesn't wear them.
I also love a lot of costumes and like to dress in different looks. Some I would not go out in public with. So, definitely I wouldn't want her to wear those!
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I tend to dress more sexy and my wife more conservitivly our
styles are 180 degrees apart .
But then again it's a don't ask don't tell thinggie so I don't push things.
Oh how I wish she would share my things.
O-well I don't rock the boat because I may be thrown overboard!!!
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I pick stuff to best hide my less feminine features
I buy clothes that appeal to me and current trends. I have a vast assortment of styles from very dressy, some sexy, some conservative.
My wife's taste in clothing is opposite of mine, more on the below the knee dresses and skirt, very conservative and so she would never wear my selection of outfits, even if she knew of my wardrobe.
Amanda
I think the answer is likely no, but it depends so much on circumstances. I now have a certain style that I look for, but that is different from my ex or any other girl I meet. Its part of what makes me me.
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My wife tends to be more of a tom-boy. So yes, my purchases reflect what I would want her to wear. It makes me crazy because she can wear all the nice things I want to wear and can't however she chooses to wear what I can. Rather ironic.
Hi Daphne,
Well call me a control freek but I choose most of Jays clothes. Well, not strictly true, its usually a joing decision but heavily weighted in my favour. I like a certain look and I know what suits him.
I also figured quite early on in the relationship that if I was going to go out with him dressed then I wanted him looking like somebody I would be proud to be with.
He has a great pair of legs and a really nice bottom so I go for the fitted tailored look. I do try not to take over, but often I impulse buy when I'm at work in my dinner break that I see and bring home for him. Not just clothes either, I like him to have matching accessories and can't resist a new handbag. There is a method in my madness cause if its something I like I also get to wear it.
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Bev
When i'm in male mode, my style and my wife's are similar. We train horses for a living and both wear wrangler jeans and boots. I like my t shirts and she likes halter tops. (i love halter tops too!). When I'm able to get girly, I totally love dresses and blouses and skirts and heels. I try to dress my age and mostly conservative with a hint of sexiness with it. My wife rarely wears her skirts. We both accept one anothers style which makes me adore her all the more.
My wife told me, "if one of us has to dress like a tramp, it ain't gonna be me!" So I made the sacrifice.
Basically yes. His femininity is his own and quite distinct from your femininity. This is a matter of self expression and definitively not a message to tell you how you should present yourself.
I am sure many CDs would like to see their SOs copy some of their favorite styles but only if that is what you feel you want inside and the style looks good on you. Otherwise stick to what you want to wear.
Think of it the other way around, since you are a tomboy do you ever think that your choice in pants should be copied by your husband? If your clothing choice is not meant to signal to your husband what he should wear as a male then why would you think differently of his feminine clothes?
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