I would love to invite your SO to the GG forum to rant and get things out and to normalize the whole process...she needs some educated and some experienced help with her valid feelings just as you do!!! I would love her to know that she is not alone, just as I would love for you to know that as well.
My prayer is Love and Understanding for each of you - one to the other and vicaversa. May all the resources you each need be given to you!
Any change can be decided on how to navigate through it!!! I can say that from my personal life with Cding and other areas.
It sounds like time to grow up and get real with one another - and that is a tough but an EXTREMELY wonderful time, no matter the outcome for the relationship itself...Heres to you getting honest with her , and to each of you being willing to talk about the next moves!!!
Honesty + dialogue = FREEDOM