Hi everyone,
Please help us . . . . . My fiancée “found out” about my X-dressing last fall while I was working out of town for what ended up being 10 months. She has agreed to try to be as accepting as she possibly can, and at this point we are trying to work my dressing into our relationship. As I stated in a previous thread, she has joined a couple other sites dealing with the issue, and while I continue suggesting that she at least look into crossdressers.com, she has not done so yet.
On her own while I was still out of town, she had attended one meeting of the local Tri-Ess chapter but it seems everyone in that particular group is YEARS into it, most of them are considerably older than us. I'm not sure how many CDs in that group have S/O's who are involving themselves . . . . . .
We are desperately seeking advice and support, as my S/O feels completely alone and feels she has nobody to talk to regarding the whole issue. She has recently had correspondence with a CD from one of the other sites who touched on something that I had never considered:
by me “coming out” of MY closet and revealing the truth, I have inadvertently thrown her INTO her own closet . . . . . Totally un-intended of course, but that’s the reality of the situation. She feels completely isolated and alone, and feels there is no one she can turn to, no one to lean on, no one to talk to and no where to go.
We don’t talk about it as much as we probably should, and I guess that’s my fault, and we haven’t exactly “grabbed the bull by the horns” either. As suggested by others, I have been willing to go at HER PACE, and not push the issue, and let the cards fall as they may, so to speak . . . . . But then she gets frustrated with me for not addressing the issue. Several weeks ago she informed me that one night a week is now “play night” but apparently I misunderstood and didn’t realize that she meant it was my night to dress up. We did have a talk about that and I think now we are on the same page. She has seen a few pictures of me totally en femme, but has only seen me completely dressed one time (it turned into a disaster) and since then I have only worn the clothes and breast forms, no shaving, no make-up, no wig, and dressed quite casual (capris and girly blouse). This past weekend we were supposed to go to the local Tri-Ess meeting and she suggested we go to a CD/TG friendly club in the area afterward (they have drag shows) but the meeting was postponed until this coming weekend, so we scrapped the club idea as well, and just went out to a local bar (me in drab).
Any input or advice would be greatly appreciated and with the quickness PLEASE ! !
Thank you . . . . . .
Leanne
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