So what is it that you want, Linda? Do you still love your wife? Have you told HER that recently? Linda, more often than not, problems within a relationship are caused by not communicating with one another. When is that last time the two of you really sat down with the intent to really communicate what was going on within yourselves? There is no shame in seeking outside help. Please don't let past disappointing experiences govern your future actions. If the love is still there, it IS worth fighting for.