Hi!
I'm new here. I found this forum through a Google search and I think it's a good place to ask the questions I have.
I'm a GG, I posted on the introductions thread for GG's and read the forum rules.
I ended a LTR with someone who was into crossdressing a few months ago and it wasn't due to their crossdressing. I'm finally starting to think about dating again and what I would be looking for. Before last week I was thinking "I will NEVER date another guy into crossdressing!". I think more so because of the hurt from my ex and he was a cd so, negative association?? lol But then I had a really good chat with a male friend about things (he is also into crossdressing) and it made me think about it a bit more. But it also raised some questions.
This question is for everyone as I'd like to hear both sides.
How often do you dress? And, sorry if this is too personal, but....do you have to stay dressed during sex? And for the GG partners: Do you want/need your partner to be in "male-mode" a certain percentage of the time? Are you always happy with making love to them dressed in female clothing or not?
I was not only into my partners crossdressing, but I got turned on by it too. BUT, I *did* need him to be in "male-mode" at times as well. Part of the turn on was the contrast. I didn't want someone 'en femme' all the time and he even told me that he wasn't interested in that. But towards the end, it seems like he was dressing more (and on his own) and when we had sex he was in the feminine mindset. And it was starting to go from a turn-on to resentment. I didn't feel like my needs were getting met as I wanted to be the female in the relationship at times! Geez! Imagine a genetic female wanted to be the female in the relationship!! lol But seriously, crossdressing can change the dynamic in a relationship and sometimes I felt like the 'man' in the relationship even though I am anything but! And when I think about those things I think, I just can't deal with that again.
I don't know....in some ways dating/being in a relationship with a cd had it's perks. It was like having a girlfriend and boyfriend all rolled into one, and it was kinda fun. I've never been the kind of woman who likes the Alpha male types anyway. But I KNOW that I could NOT deal with a guy who wanted to be dressed ALL the time or even 80% of the time. Just because I like chocolate, doesn't mean I want to eat it all the time either! ;-)
GG's?? Are there others out there like me? Do you enjoy your partners crossdressing but you need him in "male-mode" at times??
Thank you.
Queen of Hearts (Sorry, didn't want to post my real name)