There have been a couple of threads here lately about acceptance when being "a guy in a dress."
And I'm sure there is a level of acceptance, but I've noticed at least one big difference between people who see you as a woman and people who perceive you as "a guy in a dress," even if they know and aceept you.
Among those women who know I'm "male," I never get a compliment.
It's really a telling item about how you're being accepted.
When I'm in full femme mode, women who know me only as a woman, or even strangers who don't know me at all, will often compliment something -- "Oh! What cute shoes!" or "Oh! That's such a lovely ring!"
Never seems to happen among those who see me as "a guy in a dress," no matter how cute my shoes or how lovely my jewelry, and without such standard woman-to-woman communication, maybe we're really being "tolerated" rather than being accepted among women as "one of us."
Your thoughts?