when dateing what are some good tips for a crossdresser. I want to find that some one special but also who would understsnd/or enjoy me crossdressing. Any help and/or your experiances. I had fun on halloween and the lades loved my costum (see big halloween thred) and it was my first time out and i liked the support or reaction i got. (they all had BF with).
Bi girls or even bi-curious girls are probably going to be more accepting than straight. Thats who I stick with mainly.
Pretty much anyone who doesn't 'toe the line' as to politically correct gender roles is going to be more likely to 'accept' that you don't either. But that doesn't mean that they're going to find you attractive. The bi women I've known wanted masculine men and feminine women. But it's worth a shot to ask anyway.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
In my opinion if you want to find someone special then the best way is to just be yourself then the right person will find you as well .
Also you should take into account that Halloween is looked upon as a lot of fun so just because someone accepts you dressed up on Halloween does not mean that they would like it all the time ,But (always that but)at least it does show that the other person likes a bit of fun so that is a good start .
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]Joanne
I agree with Joanne ......... be you and be honest ..........Originally Posted by joanne f
In my opinion if you want to find someone special then the best way is to just be yourself then the right person will find you as well .
Also you should take into account that Halloween is looked upon as a lot of fun so just because someone accepts you dressed up on Halloween does not mean that they would like it all the time ,But (always that but)
I allow myself to set healthy boundaries ..... to say no to what does not align with my values, to say yes to what does.
Boundaries assist me to remain healthy, honest and living a life that is true to me
There are dating sites for transgender people, which I am sure you can find by using Google. When using these sites use caution, always have first meetings in public places. One of my big things to find out when chatting online and then in person, is he married? If they are, it ends there. Like any date go somewhere that you can hear each other rather than somewhere with loud music. Dress more on the casual side rather than sexy as this will give better vibes in regards to is he more interested in you or sex.
For a first date I like starting out at a Starbucks and if things go well go to a club that caters to transgender people. Also taking a walk downtown is an alternative to Starbucks.
Above all be yourself when out.
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