I just went through all of that stuff the last few months...since May I guess....got pretty intense....but in the end she left and so did I. She left the marriage and I left for Florida....
My feeling was this is who I am and this is what I am and htis is where I need to go....we grew apart and our love and committment wasn't as strong as we both thought it was....
I arrived in Florida and 8 days later I was leaving....she discovered that she really did love me.....so she I and our marriage deserved a second chance....
Bottom line....if she goes and stays gone then the relationship wasn't waht it should be...if she comes back at some time in the future then you'll have a better idea just how strong it really is.....
Either way life goes on and best of luck ot you and to her as well....
Steph