I am new to this site, however by no means am I new to the transgender world. I do happen to be post-op TS and I actually make my living working for the state in HIV prevention targeting the transgender population.
This means that in my work I find myself entrenched in the tg community. I go to support groups (even Tri-Ess) and I know many of the girls where I live.
Most of the girls where I live have been trained (perhaps by myself) to not use that dreaded "P" word, for these days I hardly ever hear it. On the other hand I come to this site and I see it popping up a lot, so I will give you my take and rationalle for suggesting you not use it.
The "P" word has many definitions and the one that really hits home is that it {Implies something is not really what it appears to be}.
I dont know about you but if you are a CD or a woman or a man you are what you are!!!!! If you are dressed as a woman then you are dressed as a woman and its as simple as that. IT IS WHAT YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!
ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME HERE??????? DO YOU SEE WHERE USING THAT WORD IS SELF DEFEATING?? Do you see where using the P word sets the stage for inability to fit in??? It should be VERY clear that by using that word you VOLUNTARILY are saying I am FAKE!! That I am not real. That I am not to be respected as I appear!!!!!
Ok so you ask me "Katie what is a better way to put it?"
How about your presentation? They way you present yourself to the world is the absolute key as to wether you will FIT in!!!!!!!!!!! If you stand tall and have pride in who you are (as a CD or whatever), if you appear as the average woman your age in the correct settings, I guarantee you will fit in.
The real secret to being a woman is 90% in your head. The biggest roadblock to figureing out that part is using (along with the mindset) that dreaded "P" word!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hugs:
Katie
Originally Posted by skirtsuit
