crossdressers and lesbian bars

[DeniseNJ]

I need some advise. I will be headed to Sister a lesbian bar in Phila. This chance don't come along that often. I called the place and was wold that the girls don't mind if CD's stop by. Any advise on Do's and don't . LIKE SHOULD i USE THE LADYS ROON OR NOT. Should I start up conversation or just be quiet. Denise is plucking and shaving away. It's a 40 mile ride . It's a shame I can't find someone to come along. This is my second time out alone for an extended stay,those little drives don't count.. I am some what scared as he!! as well as excited. give a girl a little encouragement OK!!

[Sherry-Stephanie]

LOL JUst go out and get there and go sit down probably at the bar order a drink and go from there....let the evening come to you and see what happens....

I've not been to a lesbian bar, but some of the girls I hang with have been and they were accpeted jsut fine...

The bar/club I usually go to is a gay club and I usually jsut go in there order a drink sit back and see what happens...and usually I've never disppointed because I usually end up talking to someone be it male or female and have been out maybe 15 times in the past few months and it's always an interesting evening....

I use the ladies room when in dress and have never had a problem with any of the girls there...actually they tend to treat you as just another one of them...

Yeah, you probably are normal at being scared/nervous, but the more you go out that all goes away....I use to feel the same way but now it's like routine....

Good luck and like I said, get there, order a drink and sit back and relax...if nothing else and it isn't busy get a bit of a conversation going with the bartender...tell him or her and I think it would be a her....that your a new crossdresser and jsut getting out and see if she can give you some pointers about other crossdresser who come in there....trust me your not the first one to have gone to that bar....

Enjoy...

Steph

PS sorry about the Phillies....

[Fran Moore]

I've been to several Lesbian bars around the country, and have always been well received. Never have had a problem using the "ladies" room either, but check with the bartender if you have any doubts about it. Many times I have ended up out on the dance floor, and have had gals wanting to either sit with me or come and sit with them. Much more accepting than a gay guys bar! I've even had the female bouncers voluntarily escort me out to a waiting cab, very cool indeed!

Suzanne

[Lorileah]

One of the nicest evenings I had out was at a "L" bar, in fact it was called the "Elle" bar. Intimate, quiet, the bartender was attentive and quick. The patrons were friendly, mostly because I wasn't a threat because I wasn't a "male" invading the territory and I wasn't a "female" they would be interested in picking up (and none were drunk enough to mistake me ). I was complimented many times and of course the old joke of "too bad you aren't really a girl". No one tried to start a fight. and unlike gay bars no one lifted my hem to see what I had on under there nor did anyone tell me I must be there for some...well you know. I have several Lesbian friends and they say that anyone who goes to "their" bars is welcome as long as they act appropriately and what is more appropriate than looking like a well dressed woman...well maybe one that is a little naughty in those bars

[Jessinthesprings]

Hey, I want to go to one now. I did not think that lesbian bars were that common, and that most places just had one size fits all gay bars. Good luck and I wish you the best of luck and hope you have fun.

[sherri]

The ones I go to are pretty laid back and they don't give a rip which bathroom you use as long as you don't pee on the seat. Heck, I've had them come in and sit down while I'm using the mirror, just chattering up a storm like they would with any girl.

There's nothing to fear hon. Smile, be outgoing but not pushy. Your shyness can often be misinterpreted as wanting to be left alone. Introduce yourself when you get the chance, cuz they shouldn't have to do all the ice-breaking, then let them do the follow-up. Don't be surprised if you're invited to join one of their tables. If someone buys you a drink, return the favor. Etc etc.

You're gonna have a nice time, trust me.

[tricia_uktv]

Hon, just enjoy yourself. Fine to use the ladies and the lesbians will love you - especially the older ones. Remember the smile Have fun

[Angelofsomekind]

I'd think as long as you are respectful of them they would be the same to you. I'm sure some would like it.

[VickysBFF]

Hi DeniseNJ: I have not been to SISTERS but I have heard of it.
It is highly recommended in LGBT Travel Guides to Philadelphia.
Let us know how your visit goes.
I can't really add anything to what everyone else has said except that their website mentioned that they are cash only so make sure that you bring cash as they don't accept credit/debit cards or checks (unless they have recently changed that policy).

[SweetCaroline]

I've been to a couple Lesbian clubs and events around Boston and never had any problems. There have been other Genetic men around as well, usually of the goth variety, tho not as many. Straight (or possibly bi/curious) GGs will sometimes go as well just to have a place to hang out without men hitting on them.

As for the bathroom issue, most GLBT places I've been to it doesn't really matter. If it's a busy club, the men's room might be deserted while there are long lines at the ladies room. You can pretty much choose which ever your most comfortable with.

Most of all just act like you belong and have fun. Good luck!

[DeniseNJ]

You girls are just too sweet, It's funny a clam fell over me after reading your posts. Gonna hit the shower not get rid of me wiskers , pick out a nice perfume and start my transformation. I hope it will all feel normal I HOPE. Fingers and cute toes crossed...

[Stephanie Miller]

Went to a lesbian bar once. What I noticed was a table that had a group of four that didn't dress to thier gender, used voices that I know weren't thier true voices. In fact they didn't confront anyone like I would have expected someone like them to. Made me wonder at first if they should have been welcomed at all .................. Oh! wait.... that was OUR table!
Come to think of it the other patrons were just "people" too. ( and we had a great time and made new friends)

Don't worry sister. Go have fun. That's probably all they are there for too.

[sherri]

It's funny a clam fell over me after reading your posts.

Dang gurl, are you alright? Was it a giant clam, or just a regular-sized clam?

[lynnrichards]

I've been to Sister's many times and I think you'll like it. Although it's mostly a lesbian bar, you'll find all kinds of people there -- men, women, straight, gay, cross-dressers, etc. It will vary from person to person, but most will treat you with acceptance. Some women have been especially nice to me. The bathroom on the first floor provides privacy (one person at a time, with an inside lock) and can be used by either gender. Upstairs, they have separate, public male and female bathrooms; but you can use either.

Thursdays are great. For a ten dollar cover, you get at least five tickets for free drinks (beer/wine) and a free buffet. Plus it's always crowded. I haven't been there for a while; but I'm thinking about going next Thursday night.

Good luck and have fun,
Lynn

[Gisele]

Actually I have been to a lesbian bar. My first time was with TXkimberly and it was a very pleasant time. There were quite a few GG girls there and no one gave us a bad look.
We were treated oh so wonderful by the bartender. She was very outgoing and nice to us. I have been back before they tore it down to build new buildings.
They have moved but I haven't been back....I need to find out where they are because I am wanting to return again. I felt just like one of the girls there.

[geri-tg.]

I have never been to a L bar but I might go now.

[sissy meg]

My first of only two times out dressed was to a gay bar, I was scared and excited all at the same time.

I sat at the bar and had a few drinks. I had conversations with the bartender and a wife of a crossdresser who wasn't there that night.

The funny thing is that just as I was getting comfortable, I had to pee and I didn't know which bathroom to use, so I left.

[Bobbi Lynn]

That's what I was wondering.

Dang gurl, are you alright? Was it a giant clam, or just a regular-sized clam?

[jenna_woods]

I have never been to a lesben bar let us know how you make out, and good luck

[Sally24]

One of my most favorite places to party is Pearl Nightclub in Boston. Friday night is "Alternative Women's Lifestyles" Night (otherwise know as Lesbian Night). We are very welcomed there and always have a good time. I'd recomend getting a drink and sitting and observing for awhile. Make eye contact and smile and maybe eventually start a conversation with a person or two. I think you'll find it a fun time.

Good luck!!

[CherylFlint]

You'll do just fine. Use the ladys washroom. You'll look like a lady, act like one. You'll have a good time.

[vivian33]

I hear diamonz in bethlehem PA is also very accepting of CD's/TG's. I talked to the bartender there a couple of weeks ago his name was bruce and was very re-assuring. He said the people are very friendly and will talk to you and you will just be another one of the girls. He said that sometimes a group of 10 or so will just come in and have a great time. From what i hear everybody there is very nice and i think i might have to go next week.....Anybody else wanna come?

[Illusions Of Amy]

I need some advise. I will be headed to Sister a lesbian bar in Phila. This chance don't come along that often. I called the place and was wold that the girls don't mind if CD's stop by. Any advise on Do's and don't . LIKE SHOULD i USE THE LADYS ROON OR NOT. Should I start up conversation or just be quiet. Denise is plucking and shaving away. It's a 40 mile ride . It's a shame I can't find someone to come along. This is my second time out alone for an extended stay,those little drives don't count.. I am some what scared as he!! as well as excited. give a girl a little encouragement OK!!

Let me know how your experience turns out! If it weren't short notice and I wasn't still an incomplete girl that's probably at least as nervous as you are in attempting these outings, I definitely would have attempted to stop by. Sounds like fun from this thread!

[sherri52]

Just remember to put the seat back down. You'll be fine

[trannie T]

I have the perfect to wear, jeans, boots and a flannel shirt.