Originally Posted by
JiveTurkeyOnRye
First of all, you're right, at the end of the day he is still a guy trying on a bra. But that's all he is. Does a man who wears a bra have any less right to make sure it fits comfortably than a woman does? You're right, some women might see it as creepy, but that can also happen at any other women's clothing store, the thing is to be on your absolute best behavior, and be relaxed and make it clear that it really isn't a big deal, so they can see that you're not creepy, you're just a guy who wants to wear a bra.
The basic suggestion is that if a guy wants to try on lingerie in a shop, he should present en femme when he does it. The problem with that statement is that it disregards the crossdressers that don't dress in femme. There are plenty of CDs who only underdress, and they're not doing it for purely sexual reasons, but rather than lingerie under the clothes is enough for them to satisfy their feminine desires.
Personally I only own one bra and I only pull it out on rare occasions, so if we're specifically talking about bras, then I'm not too concerned about trying them on. But I recently did try on panties at a Vanity Fair store, at the suggestion of the SA who wanted to make sure I got the right size. I didn't even think of asking to try them on, I was trying to eyeball them on the rack and the SA told me that I should just take them to the fitting room. I did this in male mode because, if you can't tell from my avatar and the majority of my pictures, I'm pretty much always in male mode, even when I wear skirts. So I guess I don't see how trying on underwear just to make sure it fits isn't ok when I dress the way I do, but if I spent a half hour putting on makeup and a wig and such that it would be ok then.
Now, having said that, I do think when it comes to intimate apparel, due to the nature of the garments, some restraint is necessary. Unlike other types of clothing where you should feel free to try everything on to see how it all looks, when it comes to underwear I really feel like, regardless of your sex, you should only try on one, maybe two items for the SOLE purpose of making sure that it fits properly, and that's it. Also, again due to the nature of the items, one really should only try on underwear if they have every intention of buying the item they're trying on unless it simply doesn't fit. And obviously when it comes to panties, wear your own pair under them.