The whole family is coming in for a wedding this weekend. I want to come out but I know its the wrong time. duh! but the urge is there. Advice welcomed.
The whole family is coming in for a wedding this weekend. I want to come out but I know its the wrong time. duh! but the urge is there. Advice welcomed.
What kind of advice do you need?
My only question, which isn't advice at all is. Do you really want to upstage a wedding? Considering the whole family is coming there I assume the marrying couple is at least part family. Do you want to be roundly hated by the couple for the rest of your life for upstaging them on there weekend?
What about the rest of the people coming to the wedding? What exactly do you think they will talk about when they go home? What will be the topic of conversation when they get their photo's back of there day?
My advice. Get a reality check. It's someone else's day, let them have it and behave yourself. It's there day, celebrate them, it's not yours.
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I agree...you do NOT want to upstage the wedding and draw attention to yourself. This is NOT your weekend find another time to do so.
You've kept it secret this long so it won't kill you to wait until a future date.
Well if you need to come out now do it after the wedding before every one goes home so you don't steel the "show". There is never the best time something is always going to get in the way. But like the other girls have said , don't pull focus away form the wedding and maybe wait like I said until after, like the next day before they all leave. Just my
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There's a time and place to come out to everyone. Only you can understand how your fiance/family will take the news, however I will say keep in mind that your SO probably expects yall's wedding day to be something special
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I don't think that the OP is the one getting married,but if they were wouldn't it be a hoot for both of them to be brides? That would indeed make the day quite special... well if not special, at the very least memorableOriginally Posted by southernpeach
Just my two cents:
Absolutely NOT!! How selfish is that?! This should be about the bride and groom, not about you! Everything that happens at this time should be all about the bride and groom and anything that takes away from that is in extremely poor etiquette and form! (In the olden days, women did not wear white to a wedding as it took away from the bride, it was HER place to wear white...although that tradition has altered somewhat, the principle is still a good one)
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Awww. Come on.... It might just make a some what...... same old boring wedding more memorable? "Remember when Uncle Mike came out of the closet........ During the cerimony..... He was wearing such a pretty dress". Yeah.. Maybe even win $10,000 on AFV!! Or end up on Cops.. Depending on the reception...
Funny thing Karren to my sisters kid I am Uncle Mike......funny thing eh!!!
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If the bride and groom know and approve I might say go for it, but this is the bride's special day and I would have to agree that this is not the time or place.
I did go to a "wedding" dressed, but it was a lesbian ceremony and there were others who were FTM and bigendered. I also asked and made sure that it was okay with the brides, and her family. Big difference.
It is the brides day do not upstage her.
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Like everyone else .............................NO
you will only set your family against you if you come out,,,,make it other day/weekend
This is not really advice but more of a suggestion . Why not wait till your birthday . It will be the ideal day to do it since it will your day and let the bride enjoy hers .
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My advice? Don't. It would be the height of selfishness.
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No!
I'm with Holly and the others. It would be an utterly selfish and stupid thing to do.
Overall Consensus is "DON'T!" This comes from rich and poor, saint and sinner, and when they chime in; probably from female and male too.
Isn't this telling you something?
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be a bizarro version of michael scott (see: the office season 3 episode 16 - phyllis's wedding) by getting a bridesmaid dress then stand up in the front with the rest of the bridesmaids and pretend everything is normal.
Well Marny,
I wouldn't suggest using someone elses special day to make such an announcement unless you want to make enemies and have a whole bunch of people who would normally be supportive absolutely turn on you.
If you are determined to announce your intentions to everyone at the same time - why don't you have a coming out party for yourself?
Myself, I did it one on one, each person or family at a time. You'll find a lot better response that way. You can also answer questions better and honestly and not feel overwhelmed.
But, it's your choice. I say not a good idea. Make that, it's a bad idea.
But, do have fun. I know that feeling of wanting to dress for a party - but it's only ok if you are already out.
:-) Portia :-)
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to me this is not the time to come out, why do this to someone's else's wedding, please think this over well.
After the wedding if you feel strongly about it do it. Wait until after the reception or after the bride and groom have left. You don't want to take away from thier special day.
Thank you all. Very good advice. I will not impose on their day. I guess you need to look at it from the other side and think how it would affect you, and you all made me think that way. Thank You
if you do
Marny,
(sounds like a good movie title)
If you do, maybe Alfed Hitchcock can supply you with some black birds to make the scene complete. then everyone will have something to crow about.
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You could come out to your family durring the wedding but in privite.
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Definately not the right time honey. I would hold off for a more appropriate time. You don't know how your family will react. You also might want to think about telling them on an individual basis rather than all at once.
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