I'm being befriended by some new people as a result of my attending my first party as a girl. People are naturally curious, and want to know 'whether I want to be a woman,' what my sexuality is, and one girl even asked me to define several terms, including one I had to just send her a wiki link for.
There have to be about 13,000 'what does it all mean' threads here. So one more can't hurt, right?
I'm wondering what it would mean if anyone I know from work ever sees me out dressed. I just got laid off, so I won't be going back there. But I had about 200 people I worked with, and about two dozen in my department just threw me a birthday bash a couple of months ago were my fairly close friends. I was known as the girl crazy joker musician. Which I am..they just never knew how girl crazy. At the party, I enjoyed getting the attention of the girls. Guys might have thought it was the classic girls-love-a-gay-guy thing. Hell, the women might have even wondered. Wheels within wheels, endless shades of grey...nothing is set in stone.
I digress, as I will. Here's what I think about me. I honestly don't think I'd give a damn about dressing if I had the woman of my dreams in my life. There are too many other things I'm passionate about, from writing to composing music to spending time with my girlfriend. But it's been five years since I've had any real fun or passion in my life. I know that this void is making me want to do something new. As a musician, I experienced the change in tone that people had towards me (when I was in a successful band many years ago.) The other night as Aleshia dressed to the nines, I once again felt special.
There's nothing I enjoy more than being noticed, and then having people realize that I'm a genuinely nice person, self deprecating, funny and silly. As my normal guy self, I often feel like a clumsy goof that falls for the prettiest woman in the room (who is invariably on Dirk Squarejaw's arm.)
But compared to many whose stories I've read here, I feel like a tourist. I don't get all emo about wishing I was a girl, I certainly don't get my feelings hurt about any of this, and I also realize the fundamental absurdity of it all...especially when dealing with the utter awkwardness and discomfort the clothes and makeup bring. My previous forum experience was on a transsexual forum, where the crossdressers were few and far between. My one old transsexual friend tells me she was never a crossdresser. That one had me scratching my head. (You knew you were a girl in middle school but you never dressed as one?)
I guess I have a hard time understanding how dressing up can make someone happy if they want to "be" a woman. "Look like" a woman for parties - that I get.
And I would like to understand.