There was a post a while back about someone's SO who was upset about her husband being a CD, because she wanted someone who could 'top' her--by which I thought she meant "be the dominant person in the relationship". I guess that a lot of GGs expect, even desire, to be subordinate to their husbands, and might find that inconsistent with crossdressing.
So the question to you who have SO's: "Is one of you dominant in the relationship?" Ours is a division of labor. We discuss decisions, I handle all the investments. But I also do what I'm told--she drives or decides who will drive, controls the TV, decides on the movies, and our diets. We're comfortable, she's dominant--but still completely negative about cross dressing. Actually she hasn't told me I can't, just that she doesn't want to know about it. So I respect her wishes.