All this back and forth and personal points of view has gotten away from the original issue: how to resolve the apparent standoff.
Here's a guy who wants to occasionally crossdress, perhaps just in certain articles of clothing. No mention of dressing completely or going out en femme. Stated that he did not want to become a woman. Otherwise is able and willing to be the man, father and husband. She says no way, no how, no time.
If you push for acceptance, it could end the marriage. And, an angry ex could blab to the employer, ending your employment. I know, living in the deep South, I would absolutely lose my job if my boss found out about me. We can argue whether that's fair or not, but it's the way it is.
So I think the best solution in this case under the given circumstances is: Don't bring it up again, dress privately, get a better storage place, be careful, and enjoy yourself.
Doc, as usual, provides simple clarity and wisdom.
