I'd rather be considered gay than a freak or pervert.
Life's too short to not do the things that make you happy.
you know woman are aloud to do and wear and say anything they want to, anytime they want to!
And that was ME!
After I finally got past THAT, if anyone else thinks I'm gay for dressing, I understand and could care less!
PS: GREAT avatar pic, Kelly!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
[SIZE="2"]If they ask if I'm gay, I might ask, "which definition?" "Do you mean happy, joyful gay, or homosexual gay". Joyce is right, and there is a set in stone double standard. I also like the comeback of, "are you flirting with me?"[/SIZE]
Kelly is right. Now suppose the given GG added, to the fake mustache and beard, say she wore pantyhose on her head, and was carrying a gun.
People would probably start asking if she was a bank robber.
Now if she added cowboy boots with spurs, one might shing she was trying to rob a bank in the old west.
If she was drinking a pepsi, and worked for Coca-Cola, and her boss saw, then she would probably get fired cause cola companies are kind of picky about that.
If she worked for Pepsi, the last thing she would want to happen is to get tested positive for COKE!
And if she was eating a Pay Day candy bar, and broke a tooth, would her insurance cover it? I mean PayDays are pretty hard on the teeth, so the insurance might say it was an act of carelessness. Especially if it was Aetna, you know what crooks they are.
See, it all makes sense.
If a GG is to wear a mustache, she had BETTER be drinking a pepsi and eating a candy bar besides a payday, and NOT carrying a gun.
It takes a true Erin to be a pain in the assatar.
In 1970 The most stylish of us men wore satin shirts, silk scarfs, and 2 inch heels. Notice the style didn't last long. If I check my attic I might even find one of those shirts. Men in general didn't except them and it eventually was thought of as gay unless you were in music (elvis).
Put a little lipstick on you'll feel better
Nicole! You are absolutely right! That is the gist of this whole thread! Assumptions! People presume that a guy dressed in woman's clothing is gay,people would presume that if she had a gun and pantyhose and cowboy boots that she was a bank robber from the old west. I never in my entire life would have thought that you would say that I was right about anything. What a pleasant surprise. Thank you!
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Kelly
Other than being asked if I am gay by my wife, I don't consider any question like that to be any of their business but I would not tell them such. I have, however, responded in several ways, mostly in the form of a question.
"Why do you ask?"
"Would it make any difference about what you think of me?" and my favorite....."Not yet!"
I totally agree with kelly that the problem with that "are you gay" question is assumptions. Honestly it really is a major assumption.
Being gay means being sexually attracted to members of the same sex (duh). Being a CD means enjoying dressing or appearing as a member of the opposite sex. To anyone without the preconceptions of modern society those two things are completely unrelated. Ultimately how does a man wanting to wear a dress, makeup, heels, a wig, etc automatically mean he is attracted to men? Even wishing to be a member of the opposite sex wouldn't automatically mean one is attracted to members of the same sex.
I personally am biologically a male. I do crossdress, and i find myself increasingly wishing that I were female. But I am sexually attracted ONLY to females. So that makes me a heterosexual male. That concept is somehow very difficult for so many people to grasp. They don't understand how one can dress as a member of the opposite sex while not having homosexual desires.
I have been asked the "are you gay" question numerous time and this is how I usually answer it:
Do you mean am I dressed like this to attract men? No.
Then I'll add; yes I guess that I must be a lesbian, because I like women.
Dana Ryan
I do not understand this.
If you wish to be female but you still like girls? If a TG has all the procedures to make them into a girl, then if they still like girls, wouldn't that make them lesbians????
If a married male cross dresser decides to become female, would his wife remain married to him or would she divorce?
How do you know when to refer to a cross dresser as a him vs as a her?
I was under the impression that cross dressers were just like every other guy, except in their choice of attire.
Most people do not understand that Sexuallity and Gender are not the same thing.
I would like to think I would be able to take the time to educate them if given the opportunity.
The question arises due to peoples pre-conceived ideas and going by stereotypes
Right, next you'll be telling us some of them even play hockey...
Just strongly in touch with their feminine side. Most gay guys are turned off even by effeminate men. Drag: some of them consider it a joke thing. And some may be CD's.
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Yes, that would make them lesbians. If you consider yourself female and seek to change your body into a female body thus obtaining a female ID you are a female. A female being attracted towards other females is a lesbian no matter how you look at it.
However, there are some people who wouldn't consider a male to female a female but they would insist going after their birth sex therefore for them they would be simply "straight", which doesn't really make sense.
There are several things that would have to be accounted for. First of all would be the laws regarding a marriage in the country you are living in. Depending of the laws you might or might not be able to marry no matter how the couple itself feels about it.If a married male cross dresser decides to become female, would his wife remain married to him or would she divorce?
If there is no problems regarding the law and the two could stay married despite being the same sex it would be up the the couple to decide what they want to do. There are some wives that would not want to stay together and there are some that still they together despite the change of sex.
I would refer the person the way they are dressed. So if you dress female I'd use the feminine pronouns etc. I've heard that there are some crossdressers that don't want to be called female. Each person is an individual and if in doubt it might be better to ask the person itself how they feel about the matter.How do you know when to refer to a cross dresser as a him vs as a her?
Just like lesbians, gays etc. are normal people just that they have a different preference sexually. Do all people think of them as normal? No, they don't. The same goes for anything that is more out of the norm that they don't understand. It's simply something that won't change until it has become a bigger part of the society. Just look how it took for homosexuals to be more or less accepted in the society. Even now some of them decide to hide instead of admitting their sexual preference in front of everyone.I was under the impression that cross dressers were just like every other guy, except in their choice of attire.
I look like a Girl
With Makeup on my Face
In Reality
A cute Kitty I am!
"Are you gay" Why is it always the wrong guy asking that question.
Im a aquarian dammit.