I'd have to day this thread as piqued my curiosity. After reading everything in here, I guess I have a few things to say, and a question or two to ask.
I have been 'hetero' essentially for as long as I can remember, when defining such as an externally male presence dating females. That having been said, I've been 'bi-curious' for quite a long time as well. The more that I work through my transition, the more I become outwardly attracted to men, having myself in the feminine role. I am in a monogamous relation, though my SO and I have a reoccurring conversation about my wavering sexual preference quite often. She and I realize I'm changing, but we just don't know how much.
Have I thought about dating men publicly regardless? I would be lying if I said no. My SO knows it too, and yes, it makes her sad when we talk about it, even I think it's unfair to bring it up. She is my confidant though, so trials and tribulations of my transition are brought to the table for both of us to hear, regardless of how difficult sometimes.
The question of: Would I be 'a traditional wife'? Is much harder to answer I think. I don't want to fantasize too much about unrealistic endeavors, I need to keep myself grounded AND be able to care for my 'tween child. I have been an 'only parent' for, basically, my child's entire life, though I've has assistance from SO's over the years. Having seen enough households loosely based on the 'stay at home mom' life, then the 'part-time mom', the 'Working full-time 9-5 mom & dad' (the child is either in daycare or with sitters much), and then working towards the reversal, the 'part time dad', and then the 'stay at home dad'... well, everyone has their niche that they feel most comfortable with. The term 'traditional' does have the 50's connotation to it, but to many people today, tradition is whatever is socially acceptable.
It is a fantastic thing these days (and hopefully eons into the future) that women can work more and more to stand beside men, rather than in front of or behind them. My mother was the type to /try/ and be the stay at home type for my earlier years, but then worked towards getting 'her life back' and getting a part, and then full time job, and her husband never seemed taken aback by this. She was still a wonderful person, and cooked meals and cared for the kids and the house, etc. etal, but didn't exactly wait on my father hand-and-foot. It is very hard to imagine many women these days being able to live 'the housewive's life' within the patriarchal examples of the past without significant interjection from the modernized world. Again, this is all cultural more than anything else. If you want a culture that has women being the demure obedient housewives, move to China (by my understanding).
I don't believe I would be afraid / taken aback by a woman having a higher income than I. Women deserve the right to make an income commensurate with their experience, just like any person, regardless of upbringing or culture. {I deleted at least a paragraph of thought to avoid being ranty..}
*looks back more at the thread*
Would I be comfortable being stuck home all day, taking care of my child when school ends, being the 'soccer mom', etc? I don't know. I know that, as mentioned before, I've seen the different avenues available. 'Desperate Housewives' while being satirical, has realistic perspectives.. Many people get tired of the same-old stuff, and need to have some spice and variety in their life.
To the questioner I ask: If your chosen significant other started off as a 'stay-at-home' wife, but wanted to evolve to be a member of the working force again, would you try and prevent her from doing so? You said no, however it doesn't seem completely clear. Traditionalism aside, do you feel you have a right to attempt to control your mate's future? To what end and with resources? Would you just divorce them and kick them to the curb if they wouldn't submit? What if they worked towards an evolving career? A part time job is usually only a money making endeavor, it is not a career path. What about higher education? College? What if your stay-at-home wife wanted to go back to school to become a polished professional? If you were in a dedicated relationship or marriage, I would assume you would be supportive of her goals, for example.
Someone else brought up a very valid question, specifically related to our unique situations:
Also asked of the original questioner: Would you be comfortable acknowledging your SO as a crossdresser or Transgender/Transsexual and still want to treat them the same ways that you're referring to? Would you expect to be dating a closeted/ deep stealth girl, or would you not have a problem with the reality of dating in today's society, regardless of our presentation, sexuality, or family?
I guess I'll cork it for now.
Originally Posted by Miranda09
in this thread offensive, to think that some of you believe women belong in the kitchen at the kitchen sink, looking after children, cooking, cleaning etc... do you actually know we're not in the 1950's anymore? This is pure fantasy, no woman in the right mind cooks in heels, it's dangerous... seriously, those that would say they'd love to do it, then do it for a month, put your heels on, and your pinny and get on with it.. and if you love it, there's something wrong with you... no woman I know loves cleaning 
Jeez... get a clue already!!!
I missed this bit... wow, you really are a twat 
