Hi all,
I know it seems like us gg's have a million questions, and so here is another.
What have you done to give back to the tg/cd/ts community?
And by "give back" I mean have any of you done things to help new cd's with their journey in learning about all this?
For example, and I hope the people I am thinking of don't mind me using them as a positive example....my hubby is the webmistress for our groups website. This of course is a non-paying positition that he does to help out the group (xpressions.org) that we belong to. Other examples are people who might volunteer at at a tg youth organization (in Toronto there is a great youth program called SOY (Saving Our Youth) and I have known a few gals who have been big 'sisters' to a trans teen. Other examples are this forums moderators', who keep this list running smoothy.
When i also think of positive examples of people 'helping' others I think of those who have websites devoted to how they got from having no self aceptance to being proud of who they are and sharing their own personal tale. This does not happen overnight so when I see all the self realization that it takes to make a website like that I am so proud that they put that out there for all newbies to see.
I know when I found my 'happy' place with my husband I wanted to join a womans list. Not becuase I was having problems, but because I wanted to make friends with like minded women. Of course a few years back a gg list for women who are not struggeling with this was not in exsistence. Anyway...I was allowed to join that list, but had to keep my enthusiam to a calm. But once I got on there and started giving advice, lent an ear when I could, I eventually got asked to be a moderator becuase I was stepping up in a way that some ladies were just not capable of doing. I have been asked many times by new members why on earth would a woman who actually likes this and really has no problems want to hear a bunch of women complain about it and deal with all that anger and problems. My response? becuase I have found not only a great husband who is a cd, but I also have made such dear friends (online and real time) that it would be selfish and uncaring not to 'give back' to those who need support and understanding.
I really can't ever see a time in the future when I won't be involved in some aspect of support (gg or cd) for those who seek it. I think it is such a GIFT when you find your 'happy' place in all this, that it seems only right to share that with others who are still finding their way.
Obviously not every one can answer this with a yes, but I hope that it will inspire some of you to eventually do something or find some way to give back to this amazing loving community which always seems to catch a person when they fall.
Hugs
kathy in canada