Why should they?
I've been here for a while now and have had an opportunity to read a lot of the threads. Despite the half gazillion threads, they could all be boiled down to maybe a hundred topics and one of the most passionate topics is "when is my SO going to accept my dressing"? Hence, my question, why should they?
A member here continues to drive home the point that while it would be nice if his wife were just a bit more accepting, this wasn't part of the original wedding arrangements. She didn't ask to be married to a crossdresser and she/he accepts that point of view and is determined to make it work in her favor (at least I get that impression, not knowing her personally).
So it goes for all with an SO who wishes never to be involved in that part of their mate's life.
The other part of this post is a question of why continue to try and make a globe into a cube? At this point in life, one should start really considering the options that only adults can consider. Here again, its suggested-family first, dressing, if possible ,at the end of the day.
The other options are: divorce -if you are married you are freeing up your ex-spouse to pursue a life without a dresser and all the pains that go with that, and you to persue life as best you can with the possibilites of dressing when you want. That said, some men are not skilled enough to make it as a single person in this world, so this is a tough choice to make ; simply living alone and enjoying your passion for dressing (why is it so difficult to keep some things secret? Unfortunately, the closet has gotten a bad name over the years. I keep my balls in there--I wanted to be an all-star bowler) ; living alone and outing yourself (fraught with all sorts of unintended consequences or just the pure joy of living free of worry ); staying married and finding a place to enjoy your dressing (just like having a hobby, one doesn't necessarily have to take the whole family along and they may actually prefer that you did your own thing alone anyway) ; and finally, if every creative soul on earth waited to be patted on the head for what they wanted to do, there would be damned little art, music or literature, and a lot more besides, on this little globe we live on.
Finding a way to do what you enjoy without trying to drag everyone else along is very likely the way to go. It is a way to free oneself within the confines of a life that may seem difficult. There will be converts along the way (at their own pace and time) . Figuring out how one can incorporate themselves into the life around them should be the priority--hopefully the rest will follow.
Mandrake out of water