Congrats on getting what CDing is all about. Being able to correspond the freedom modern women have to integrate whatever level of masculinity they want without feeling guilt is the best way to understand what the CDer is feeling and why he acts the way he does. It is not a complex and difficult subject matter after all. In fact it is very straightforward.
If you listen to women who reject their CD partners, they invariably deny any connection with their own masculine wardrobe and interests and the CDing of their partners. In truth they are in denial that the two behaviors are the same even of their implementation turns out to have different.
Some GGs just want to hold onto the sexual stereotype of a masculine man and so refute the notion that he should be interested in expressing femininity.
CDs are just the mirror image of tomboys but have been driven into the closet by society's prejudices. I have suggested that we drop the term crossdresser and use tomgirl instead so people can grasp the connection. Even CDs would understand their behavior better if they stopped thinking their dressing was something weird or special.
To Leigh58 - the reason why CDs want to wear breast forms and aim for emulating a woman is because we lack the integration of our masculine and feminine selves. Without the ability to be feminine growing up, we had to hid away our feminine nature in a dark closet where it became compartmentalized as a guilty, shameful secret. Being unable to openly express our true nature, our femininity lived within our dreams and fantasies where we imagined ourselves as beautiful fully formed women. This is a great mental trick, men cannot be feminine but if I was a woman I could indulge my femininity to my heart's content without guilt or criticism. Thus emulation becomes a ticket to freely express our needs which as men is prohibited.
Over time this female persona becomes more real and developed. Our self image is not of a man wearing a dress but of our imagined female persona in a dress. Many CDs hate the look of a man in a dress for this reason. So what started out as a coping mechanism eventually becomes integrated and inseparable with our feminine projection.